Some BG first. I've posted about her before, she's a little BSC not going to lie. She has childhood abandonment issues and I am her only child so when I tried to "leave the nest" as an adult, she became obsessive with me. Inapropriately calling me at work all the time, coming over to my house unannounced etc. getting very emotional and upset when I asked her to stop. I TO her for a little bit, but I started talking to her again after Xmas. We don't live close to her now but I am moving back with my first born in February, my LO will be 6 months.
My mom is dying to meet her and I have been trying to beat it in her head that seeing her won't be an everyday thing. I just get worried because of we past behavior with me and she constantly texts me about how she can't wait to meet LO, that she loves LO etc. it gets me worried she is going to be let down hard core when she realizes that I really mean she won't be in our lives all the time. Here is a text exchange we had today. Was I being too mean? Am I just overreacting? Please let me know what you think, I want a third party perspective. My husband thinks I'm too hard on her. Here is the exchange:
Mom "How's (LO) today?"
Me: " She's good. We are just hangin out"
Mom " Can't wait to hang out with her too"
Me "Lol I know"
Mom "Me n (LO) can have a pajama party :)"
Me "You will be able to spend some time with her when we get there. "
Mom "Hope so anxious:)"
Me "I'm aware. But just because we are moving across the street doesn't mean you will be spending time with us everyday ok."
Mom "I know"
Me "Ok, I'm glad you're excited but I just get worried that you will get upset when you realize that it isn't ok for you to be around everyday. That's all."
Mom "Got the point a long time ago. I'll leave you alone"
Me "Ok well I bring it up because you tell me everyday how excited and anxious you are to meet her and I know you are and you telling me everyday worries me that you are obsessing and will just get really upset when you realize seeing her isnt going to be an everyday thing. She needs mommy and daddy time too "
Mom "Ok. I won't say it anymore. You can just let me know when you need a baby sitter. That's what it'll be"
Me "You can spend time with her but I just want it to be known its not going to be an everyday thing"
She quit texting me after that.
My mom is dying to meet her and I have been trying to beat it in her head that seeing her won't be an everyday thing. I just get worried because of we past behavior with me and she constantly texts me about how she can't wait to meet LO, that she loves LO etc. it gets me worried she is going to be let down hard core when she realizes that I really mean she won't be in our lives all the time. Here is a text exchange we had today. Was I being too mean? Am I just overreacting? Please let me know what you think, I want a third party perspective. My husband thinks I'm too hard on her. Here is the exchange:
Mom "How's (LO) today?"
Me: " She's good. We are just hangin out"
Mom " Can't wait to hang out with her too"
Me "Lol I know"
Mom "Me n (LO) can have a pajama party :)"
Me "You will be able to spend some time with her when we get there. "
Mom "Hope so anxious:)"
Me "I'm aware. But just because we are moving across the street doesn't mean you will be spending time with us everyday ok."
Mom "I know"
Me "Ok, I'm glad you're excited but I just get worried that you will get upset when you realize that it isn't ok for you to be around everyday. That's all."
Mom "Got the point a long time ago. I'll leave you alone"
Me "Ok well I bring it up because you tell me everyday how excited and anxious you are to meet her and I know you are and you telling me everyday worries me that you are obsessing and will just get really upset when you realize seeing her isnt going to be an everyday thing. She needs mommy and daddy time too "
Mom "Ok. I won't say it anymore. You can just let me know when you need a baby sitter. That's what it'll be"
Me "You can spend time with her but I just want it to be known its not going to be an everyday thing"
She quit texting me after that.