So, I have some BG on here. Can't seem to find it as it was almost a year and a half ago.
Just your usual MIL story. First bio-GC. Always calling. Whenever visiting never lets anyone hold the baby. Hovering over LO whenever anyone else is holding/feeding/changing him.
DS is 19 months now. Honestly, things had gotten a lot better. A lot of sit downs with DH about her behavior, so she's practically been walking on eggshells around me. Great..
So Christmas: I really just wanted it to be DH, LO, my two boys, (previous relationship, DH's step kids) and I. I discussed it with DH, but after much begging from MIL, we agreed that she could come at 4 for a couple of hours. I wanted to have the kid's opening presents as our personal moment. She agreed she understood.
Come 3:00, she texts DH saying she's just a few minutes away. I instantly feel sick to my stomach. He texts her back saying "drive slow." I race around to clean up wrapping paper, toys off the floor, and finish getting appetizers prepped. (Why? I have no idea. I've become pretty firm about this shit, but I was caught off guard and just wanted it to be a civil day.)
So, I let it go, after a little bit of attitude toward her for being early. Whatever.
Anyways, another thing. DH had told her that she isn't to get big presents for the kids, per my request. I'm the one that pushed them out of my hoohah.. I should get the credit for the awesome presents! Am I right?!
So, the older boys open their gifts. A bunch of clothes. Same with the baby. All is well, right? Nope. She says she has to go to her car to get one more present, and says, "now don't be mad!" In comes a power wheels type motorcycle for my 19mo son...?!? My idiot self didn't say anything, just gave A LOT of pissed off looks to both MIL and DH.
I ended up having a couple of beers, due to the holiday, (not a big drinker usually, so it loosened me up a bit and made me very honest) and ended up telling her, that for my husband, I want to make things work with her, but it's going to take a lot of work because she NEVER listens. She agreed, and started explaining that she doesn't know why she does it.
I'm at a loss for what to do. Obviously this woman knows what she is doing. I want to give that damn motorcycle back. It caused a bit of a spat with DH, but after he agreed that it was a huge stomp. I also told him I want a big break from her. Which he completely agreed. We're also in agreement that Christmas day from this day forth with be just for us. Any thoughts? I have to work soon, so it may be hours before I pop up here again, so not hairflipping. Thanks, ladies.
ETA: She also said that she bought a tablet for the older two boys that just hasn't arrived yet. They have a LeapPad. She said, "We'll this one has...." and I cut her off, and said theirs is just fine.