Saturday I went with DF to his family event because he kepst asking and begging me to go. It was so crazy my head is still spinning. So we got there I had to change my DD so I was away from everyone by the fireplace starting to change DD and someone yells out at me “the 2nd bathroom set up for changes†and everyone turns and stares at me so I just said I was fine and finished up. Should I have stopped and gathered everything up to go to the changing bathroom? I thought I was out of the way and had out a changing pad.
After about an hour there I discover that other one of DF sisters (L) who just got out of rehab is there. I was upset because I dont take my kids around some of my family because of drug use I dont care if they say she is clean she has only been out a week at the most. Then upstairs in the rec room there was a ton of alcohol also DF exwife came with their kids and stayed for two hours. DF mom made a big deal when DF kids came in saying how much she has missed them. When we had came she did not even know we were there and barely even acknowledged me or my kids.
I tried to spend my time talking to the one SIL who I knew before DF. Then another woman (I found out it was the person who lives with DF sisters) came in and SIL started talking to her. Then when some guy walk in with two girls the woman goes there are my girls and tells then she has something for them and takes them to her bedroom. I got freaked out and ran up to their father and told him he looks at me and goes “and?â€
The theme was New Years and lots of party type foods that ended up with a ton of gluten stuff. I put my items out and made up a cute card that said “gluten-free†and some other woman started questioning me about what was in it. Then she went and got a marker and wrote MILK, NUTS across my card. I was just shocked.
Then after dinner someone mentions worship. Im not religious and had had enough and did not want to stay for their worship. I was gathering my stuff and leaving and the SIL I was talking to ask why I am leaving and ask me to stay saying it was the best part which surprised me as she is also not religious. Then DF asked why I was leaving and I told him he said nothing about any worship and was sick of the fact that the one child was the star and no one cared about the other kids. DF said that because she has special needs and my DS was playing with other kids so what did it really matter and not to leave.
So we have chosen February 21, 2015 for our wedding. DF sister was doing the announcements and announced two other relatives, ours then friends engagements then said do we have any dates, then her DH told his friend he should get married the week after Valentines Day in case he messes up again he will always have a week to make it up so friend said good idea he will talk to the Chaplin at work. Then one couple said they were doing Las Vegas in March and were told that was good and low stress then the other said they wanted to have it on the beach in the summer. I wanted to walk out as I had already chosen February 21 as a special day and it was already mentioned as a joke, so I said we did not have a date picked. Then I grabbed my kids and left.
DF called me on Sunday I told him I did not like that I was not informed that his druggie sister was going to be there, his ex stayed for so long, that one child was the star and other kids were ignored, and was blinded sided by the worship service who does that? He said we will talk tonight. Im so mad I want nothing to do with his family. Later that day the one SIL that I was friends with dont think I want to be friends with her any more calls me up and asked why I left? I told her I felt uncomfortable then she said she gave my DD present to DF.