Here's a link to some background. It was posted in my Sept 2013 birth board:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a43071811/now_i_have_my_own_mil_rant_update?cpg=1
Well, MIL is off the whole bringing junk food when they come to visit. She realizes how angry we got over that, and even hid all the junk food in her house the last time we went to visit them so that Loran wouldn't see it and then want it.
The problem now is with presents. They just have to give the boys a present every time we see them. We asked that for Christmas, she only get our boys one gift each because we have SO MANY TOYS! They were also going to be getting gifts from members of my family and other members of DH's family. And of course they were going to be getting gifts from "Santa" (us obviously). We wanted to be the ones to give them the most gifts because they are OUR children. Well, of course she didn't listen and the proceeded to give each child 4 or 5 gifts.
Today MIL and FIL came to visit (first time since Xmas day) and came in with bags of presents!! I was passive aggressive and said "oh look DH, it must be Christmas again!" One of the "presents" was this framed photo of his tractor that they bought him that they keep at their house in the country. It's the kind he can sit on and drive like a power wheels. They showed it to him and said "here's a picture of your tractor so that you can see it since you never get to drive it." We don't go there because car trips are really hard and nap schedules are totally different between the 2 boys. We end up with 2 screaming kids the whole hour and 15 minute drive home. We have tried lots of different time frames and it just never works. So we don't go very often. It was just really passive aggressive of them to bring this photo. DH has already told me he's going to talk to his mom about that and ask her why they did that.
So in April, our son is turning three. Here's what I propose DH tell his mom:
Mom, you can get Loran ONE gift for his birthday. If you bring more than one gift, you won't be giving him ANY OF THEM.
What else can we really do? I feel like this is relatively innocent and not a huge deal, but it's bugging me that MIL just will not listen when we ask her to stop bringing things every time she sees us. What else can we do to get the point across? I can see doing a TO but we already don't see them very often. This doesn't seem big enough to CO either. I need ideas of what to say to MIL about this.
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a43071811/now_i_have_my_own_mil_rant_update?cpg=1
Well, MIL is off the whole bringing junk food when they come to visit. She realizes how angry we got over that, and even hid all the junk food in her house the last time we went to visit them so that Loran wouldn't see it and then want it.
The problem now is with presents. They just have to give the boys a present every time we see them. We asked that for Christmas, she only get our boys one gift each because we have SO MANY TOYS! They were also going to be getting gifts from members of my family and other members of DH's family. And of course they were going to be getting gifts from "Santa" (us obviously). We wanted to be the ones to give them the most gifts because they are OUR children. Well, of course she didn't listen and the proceeded to give each child 4 or 5 gifts.
Today MIL and FIL came to visit (first time since Xmas day) and came in with bags of presents!! I was passive aggressive and said "oh look DH, it must be Christmas again!" One of the "presents" was this framed photo of his tractor that they bought him that they keep at their house in the country. It's the kind he can sit on and drive like a power wheels. They showed it to him and said "here's a picture of your tractor so that you can see it since you never get to drive it." We don't go there because car trips are really hard and nap schedules are totally different between the 2 boys. We end up with 2 screaming kids the whole hour and 15 minute drive home. We have tried lots of different time frames and it just never works. So we don't go very often. It was just really passive aggressive of them to bring this photo. DH has already told me he's going to talk to his mom about that and ask her why they did that.
So in April, our son is turning three. Here's what I propose DH tell his mom:
Mom, you can get Loran ONE gift for his birthday. If you bring more than one gift, you won't be giving him ANY OF THEM.
What else can we really do? I feel like this is relatively innocent and not a huge deal, but it's bugging me that MIL just will not listen when we ask her to stop bringing things every time she sees us. What else can we do to get the point across? I can see doing a TO but we already don't see them very often. This doesn't seem big enough to CO either. I need ideas of what to say to MIL about this.