I've posted before about my BSC ED, who is currently on a TO. You guys have given me great advise in the past and I need some more wisdom now.
So, yesterday was my baby shower. My Sis1 and Sis2 hosted and came from out of town. The baby shower was held at my husbands work, a military base and most of the guests were employees.
A little BG: Sis1 is just like my ED. A Narcissistic, compulsive liar, and manipulator, not to mention does whatever drugs/pills. She's usually on LC because I refuse to be taken in by her lies and really do not like the way she has turned into my ED.
So, I get a text from my husband that a guest at my baby shower is missing 70 plus dollars. I know where the guest's purse was, and I know for a fact Sis1 was over in that corner for over 30 minutes going through boxes and other stuff. Now, earlier she had told me that her friend gave her money that she owed her, but when she tried to spend it she found out it was counterfeit and gave it to the store. So she was broke and had no cash to even get me a baby shower present nor could she pay for a her movie ticket because she didn't have enough money on her debt card.
I was so pissed last night that I had my husband ask his friend what type of bills were missing. And what do I find in Sis1's purse but the same exact amount in the same exact denominations (yeah I know it was wrong, but then again so is stealing from my freaking guests!!).
Now I really want to kick her out of my house and confront her (she's leaving this afternoon), I would also love to call the police and just have them deal with her. However, if there is one thing I have learned about the narcissistic rage is when confronted then it will turn into a nightmare for all bystanders.
Here is my plan: Let her leave, because I know she's not going to confront me. As soon as Sis2 drops her off (they travelled together) text her and tell her I can't believe she stole from my guest. And that I do not want anything to do with her, and then go about the TO process.
If she does confront me, tell her that I have no problem involving the police. That I know that said guest's fingerprints will be on the money and have no problem turning the whole thing over to them and letting them press charges for theft on a military installation.
Is this the right direction to take? Or should I plan on something else?
ETA: I don't want legal advise, just want your opinion if I am doing the right thing or not by.