I'm sorry if this is a mess. I'm really upset and I'm posting from my phone. Tonight we saw pil for dinner and gift exchange. There was some major eye rolling comments from mil and some of dh sharing more information than I'm comfortable with. The big blow up happened during gifts. They had been drinking, not a lot but we have a rule that no one holds the baby if they have been drinking. During gifts fil asked to hold him. I said "I've got him, he's okay". Mil asked if they were going to get to hold him tonight. There was a pause and my dh said "lemonface...." I responded "lemonface?" and after another pause I just told them we don't let anyone hold him if they have been drinking. More awkwardness as we tried to move on. Mil leaves the room and then came back and then left again a couple of times. Finally she come back and starts her fit.
"When you were growing up we wanted people to love you and we would never let alone hurt you. We wouldn't let anyone hold you if they would drop you but we wanted to let people love you...." - mil
Fil starts to tear up and says he feels hurt and upset. He then questions us saying "do either one of you smoke?" I said no I do not. He said he doesn't believe me. I again say I don't smoke. He says "well you use to" (oh wow good point fil). He continues to get upset and my baby starts to fuss so I stood up.
My dh said "I'm not going to let you do this to her. She already feels like she isn't a part of your family." Fil says "we have bent ove backwards for her". Dh said "we are not going to do this with baby here."
By then I had my baby in the carseat, shoes on, bag collected and headed towards the door. I told dh I'm getting in the car with baby and he should come. I nursed in the car to calm both of us downthen texted dh that I am leaving in 5 min with or without him. He doesn't come out, so I leave. I pull over not far away because I am still shaking and need to calm down. After 20 dh wants to come with me. I go get him. He came out with no gifts. Idk if that was his call or theirs but I agree.
Dh said some hurtful things in the car about me knowing this would happen and not saying anything earlier in the night . He said he lost respect for me. I said I dont think we should talk about this now. We are now at home ignoring each other.
Merry fucking Christmas. This is my first Christmas with my first baby. I can't believe this. I am heartbroken.
"When you were growing up we wanted people to love you and we would never let alone hurt you. We wouldn't let anyone hold you if they would drop you but we wanted to let people love you...." - mil
Fil starts to tear up and says he feels hurt and upset. He then questions us saying "do either one of you smoke?" I said no I do not. He said he doesn't believe me. I again say I don't smoke. He says "well you use to" (oh wow good point fil). He continues to get upset and my baby starts to fuss so I stood up.
My dh said "I'm not going to let you do this to her. She already feels like she isn't a part of your family." Fil says "we have bent ove backwards for her". Dh said "we are not going to do this with baby here."
By then I had my baby in the carseat, shoes on, bag collected and headed towards the door. I told dh I'm getting in the car with baby and he should come. I nursed in the car to calm both of us downthen texted dh that I am leaving in 5 min with or without him. He doesn't come out, so I leave. I pull over not far away because I am still shaking and need to calm down. After 20 dh wants to come with me. I go get him. He came out with no gifts. Idk if that was his call or theirs but I agree.
Dh said some hurtful things in the car about me knowing this would happen and not saying anything earlier in the night . He said he lost respect for me. I said I dont think we should talk about this now. We are now at home ignoring each other.
Merry fucking Christmas. This is my first Christmas with my first baby. I can't believe this. I am heartbroken.