So I've known my FIL has HepC almost as long as I've known him (5 years). When I found out and when my husband and I dated and even got married kids was never on the table and I had taken safety classes on bodily fluids for first aid training. So I never had a reason to ask questions or really worry.
Now that I'm pregnant five years later I'm horribly worried. I don't want to sound or be ignorant. I don't think my FIL would intentionally do anything to give my child this. I've tried bringing up my worries of accidental transmission several times to my husband and he kind of brushes me off. My biggest worry is that he is sick with diabetes and another unknown illness as well. One of things that is a side effect of all of this is that he gets sores that he picks at. Now with babies being born they are poked and prodded and their umbilical cord is basically an open wound for weeks. I'm seriously scared that everyone will minimize my worry and/or blow up at me because my SIL had no problem with her newborn being changed butt naked by him.
Like I said I don't want to be ignorant but transmission when both subjects have open skin is a real thing. This is not pike a cold where the kid will get over it in a week. This is life long. I really wanted to even invite my MIL to the birth since she only has boys. But if I do that I know my FIL will bully his way in with guilting my husband, during my babies first day when there is so much skin that had been broken from tests, shots, and the umbilical cord.
I've tried googling this but it's not helpful at all. I'm seriously about to make my inlaws wait to visit until thus kid is completely healed because of this. If my FIL took better care of himself I wouldn't worry as much, but he comes from a family that thinks...Hmm nothing bad will ever happen. Then when it does they go oh will how was I suppose to know. I love these people, but this will be my baby.
Bg:I had a child previously who died in someone elses care from dehydration.
So I have absolutely no freaking unicorn on the subject of my childs health. I just want to be informed of the realities of the situation without my worries being minimized. I don't want to isolate my FIL either, but my child will come first. Btw the does are on his hands as will so a long sleeve isn't a great option. He also decided that apparently the one and only diaper he will ever change is the first he encounters which thus exposed him directly to my Childs open skin. Any help or direction would be appreciated. Thankfully they live several hours away, but will want to visit asap as well as generally being PA and boundary stomping but "totally didn't mean too...." Hubs is up for any boundaries and him setting them with them. I just don't want to be unrealistic or unfair. Sorry about the long post.
Now that I'm pregnant five years later I'm horribly worried. I don't want to sound or be ignorant. I don't think my FIL would intentionally do anything to give my child this. I've tried bringing up my worries of accidental transmission several times to my husband and he kind of brushes me off. My biggest worry is that he is sick with diabetes and another unknown illness as well. One of things that is a side effect of all of this is that he gets sores that he picks at. Now with babies being born they are poked and prodded and their umbilical cord is basically an open wound for weeks. I'm seriously scared that everyone will minimize my worry and/or blow up at me because my SIL had no problem with her newborn being changed butt naked by him.
Like I said I don't want to be ignorant but transmission when both subjects have open skin is a real thing. This is not pike a cold where the kid will get over it in a week. This is life long. I really wanted to even invite my MIL to the birth since she only has boys. But if I do that I know my FIL will bully his way in with guilting my husband, during my babies first day when there is so much skin that had been broken from tests, shots, and the umbilical cord.
I've tried googling this but it's not helpful at all. I'm seriously about to make my inlaws wait to visit until thus kid is completely healed because of this. If my FIL took better care of himself I wouldn't worry as much, but he comes from a family that thinks...Hmm nothing bad will ever happen. Then when it does they go oh will how was I suppose to know. I love these people, but this will be my baby.
Bg:I had a child previously who died in someone elses care from dehydration.
So I have absolutely no freaking unicorn on the subject of my childs health. I just want to be informed of the realities of the situation without my worries being minimized. I don't want to isolate my FIL either, but my child will come first. Btw the does are on his hands as will so a long sleeve isn't a great option. He also decided that apparently the one and only diaper he will ever change is the first he encounters which thus exposed him directly to my Childs open skin. Any help or direction would be appreciated. Thankfully they live several hours away, but will want to visit asap as well as generally being PA and boundary stomping but "totally didn't mean too...." Hubs is up for any boundaries and him setting them with them. I just don't want to be unrealistic or unfair. Sorry about the long post.