hey y'all...question for you please.
So I attended a family function of my DH's recently. We haven't been married that long. Most of his extended family were all there. I was having a great time at sitting down enjoying my alcohol when DH's sister (whom I hardly know) walks over to me and says "don't tell Rob I told you this, but his ex showed up here. I know you saw me talking to her but I felt like I had to. Don't worry she looks terrible in that dress. I think they are at the bar together right now". I had NO idea what she was talking about and she wouldn't say anything else about it. Lo and behond when I went to the bathroom, DH and this "ex" were both at the bar ordering drinks. I took DH outside and asked him what was up with all the secrecy and told him what his sister said. He had no clue who or what I was talking about. In the meantime, while I was out front talking to DH about this, his sister coincidentally left the event out the opposite door and went home. Once back inside, I pointed out the girl I was talking about, the "ex", and he didn't even recognize her for several moments. Finally he did, and said she was there likely because she was related to the host (a family friend) and he went on 2 dates with her about 20 years earlier. They didn't even recognize one another and she was there with her husband and child. SIL completely left all of that information out and I have no idea why she would have done such a thing, nor do I understand why she was bad mouthing this lady who did nothing wrong. Is this something grown ups do? What are your thoughts on this? My DH was furious with her and demanded she apologize to both of us. She never did give any sort of logical reason for it aside from claiming to be "on my side" (no one was taking sides but her!) and denied having any bad intentions whatsoever and is sweet to my face. Why would someone do such a thing? Would you keep a good distance from such a person? Thanks to each and every person for each and every opinion in advance:) much appreciated.