Over the last 7 months since my lo was born I have had tons of issues with my mil. She treats my dh like is 5 years old, and me as is I'm not good enough for her son. She is a classic manipulator and a narcissist. I dealt with it all to the best of my abilities until this past. Christmas.
Dh and I use to take lo over to her home every other Sunday. Since Christmas I can no longer deal with even being in the same room so I don't go. She is very entitled and feels that every other Sunday she should have her day with lo irrelevant to what else could be going on.
I have tried to talk to Dh about how uncomfortable I am with mil seeing lo that often. As well as how uncomfortable I am with how pliable he is to his mother's wants. ( My Dh is an absolute people pleaser. His entire life's goal since lo was born is to make everyone happy.) He refuses to even consider cutting down on seeing her. He pretty much writes off my feelings because she is "a good person" and he wants lo to know her.
I'm not against mil having a relationship with lo, just the level of relationship that they both want. I know that 2 days out of the month is really not that often. Even if the trips are no less than 5 hours... but seeing as she plays mommy the whole time (Dh doesn't see it) I feel that she should see him less. Or when it is convenient for us to avoid her feeling entitled to her own special time.
With Dh and I fighting as often as we have been I don't want to fight unnecessarily if I'm in the wrong. So I was wondering if the issue is actually mil, dh, or just me being overly controlling?
[I have More background in other posts but I can't connect then because I'm on my phone ]
(Edited for spelling issues)
Dh and I use to take lo over to her home every other Sunday. Since Christmas I can no longer deal with even being in the same room so I don't go. She is very entitled and feels that every other Sunday she should have her day with lo irrelevant to what else could be going on.
I have tried to talk to Dh about how uncomfortable I am with mil seeing lo that often. As well as how uncomfortable I am with how pliable he is to his mother's wants. ( My Dh is an absolute people pleaser. His entire life's goal since lo was born is to make everyone happy.) He refuses to even consider cutting down on seeing her. He pretty much writes off my feelings because she is "a good person" and he wants lo to know her.
I'm not against mil having a relationship with lo, just the level of relationship that they both want. I know that 2 days out of the month is really not that often. Even if the trips are no less than 5 hours... but seeing as she plays mommy the whole time (Dh doesn't see it) I feel that she should see him less. Or when it is convenient for us to avoid her feeling entitled to her own special time.
With Dh and I fighting as often as we have been I don't want to fight unnecessarily if I'm in the wrong. So I was wondering if the issue is actually mil, dh, or just me being overly controlling?
[I have More background in other posts but I can't connect then because I'm on my phone ]
(Edited for spelling issues)