Background: my parents lack boundaries and assume we want them around at all times. They live 8 hrs from us and controlling/limiting their visits has been a huge deal for me. My dh is fed up with them, and I am going to counseling to try to stop the unhealthy guilt I have surrounding them.
Anyway, dh and I are planning a weeklong trip to my hometown (in a different state, where my parents no longer live either). We have several good friends we will be visiting, as well as my aunts and uncles and cousins, to whom dh and I are pretty close. It's been years since we have been there, and many of them have not met my son yet, so we are really looking forward to it. We have lots of plans set up already.
I knew my parents would want to go at the same time and be everywhere we are the whole week (they always do), so I didn't tell them about it for a while, and then I called and told my mom we want to have our own family trip this time. She was really hurt and said that she has every right to visit her own sisters (my aunts) and she just wants to see everyone meet her grandson, etc. She is telling my aunts that "I won't let her go" and now everyone probably thinks I am being a controlling bitch and excluding my parents. (I don't think my aunts really understand how inappropriate my mom is with my family because she seems super nice and sweet.)
So, am I in the wrong? I really don't want to cancel the trip, but what do you wise ladies think I should do?
Anyway, dh and I are planning a weeklong trip to my hometown (in a different state, where my parents no longer live either). We have several good friends we will be visiting, as well as my aunts and uncles and cousins, to whom dh and I are pretty close. It's been years since we have been there, and many of them have not met my son yet, so we are really looking forward to it. We have lots of plans set up already.
I knew my parents would want to go at the same time and be everywhere we are the whole week (they always do), so I didn't tell them about it for a while, and then I called and told my mom we want to have our own family trip this time. She was really hurt and said that she has every right to visit her own sisters (my aunts) and she just wants to see everyone meet her grandson, etc. She is telling my aunts that "I won't let her go" and now everyone probably thinks I am being a controlling bitch and excluding my parents. (I don't think my aunts really understand how inappropriate my mom is with my family because she seems super nice and sweet.)
So, am I in the wrong? I really don't want to cancel the trip, but what do you wise ladies think I should do?