So I am only halfway through this pregnancy and everyone wants to babysit. This is my first and its taken us a long time to get here. I have no intent to leave lo with anyone for at least 6months, maybe longer?
Fil is our best babysitting canadate so far. He respects us, our rules, and would come to our house. I am only slightly weirded out leaving him with a bottle of bm, but I will get over it. I totally trust him and his ability to care for lo.
The issues come up with my mom. While she is great and I love her, she has health problems that would interfere with her ability to care for lo. I know it will make her cry when we say no. Can I bean dip this one? Or do I tell her no now to give her time to deal? She could handle small amounts of time like 1/2 hr and lives by the grocery store. Should I suggest very small periods of alone time?
Then there is MIL, poor lovable MIL. She is mentally ill and will not get any unsupervised time with lo at all. Dh agrees. But she is already asking. Tell her no now? She will want to know why.
My thing is how do we do this without hurting people?
I have a couple aunts & my sister I am unsure about because I don't know for sure if they will respect our wishes. They might not want to come to our place either. I am not lugging a ton of stuff to someone elses house to watch my lo. Especially because their kids are grown and the homes are not child proof.
The deal is, I have a spine, but I have a heart too. How do I handle this without crushing souls and causing tears?
Fil is our best babysitting canadate so far. He respects us, our rules, and would come to our house. I am only slightly weirded out leaving him with a bottle of bm, but I will get over it. I totally trust him and his ability to care for lo.
The issues come up with my mom. While she is great and I love her, she has health problems that would interfere with her ability to care for lo. I know it will make her cry when we say no. Can I bean dip this one? Or do I tell her no now to give her time to deal? She could handle small amounts of time like 1/2 hr and lives by the grocery store. Should I suggest very small periods of alone time?
Then there is MIL, poor lovable MIL. She is mentally ill and will not get any unsupervised time with lo at all. Dh agrees. But she is already asking. Tell her no now? She will want to know why.
My thing is how do we do this without hurting people?
I have a couple aunts & my sister I am unsure about because I don't know for sure if they will respect our wishes. They might not want to come to our place either. I am not lugging a ton of stuff to someone elses house to watch my lo. Especially because their kids are grown and the homes are not child proof.
The deal is, I have a spine, but I have a heart too. How do I handle this without crushing souls and causing tears?