BG: DF and I have 2 LOs and another due in 5 weeks. MIL and I hate each other and it is not a secretive thing. She is gossipy, rude, manipulative and boundary stomping. My children have not set foot in her home in over a year, and never will again.
*triggers*
(my phone posted before I was done.)
My BIL moved to our state about a year and a half ago. He and I always got along well and my los adored him. In sept 2013 I was 9wks pregnant and started bleeding. I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum and sent home. I ended up being sent out of town for testing bc there was no hb and my hormone levels were going crazy (up, plateau, skyrocket). My lo3 is healthy and the drs guess i had two embryos and lost one. In order to obtain an abortion in my state you have to go to the sole clinic in the state which was in the same town my OB was in. MIL, charming lady she is, tells everyone that will listen that I am having an abortion. That bitch didn't even know I was pregnant. so I get home and am drained. we ask BIL to come help DF so i can rest. That night BIL sexually assaulted me. We reported it to the police, who have not filed charges, and got a RO. MIL sat at the RO hearing and listened to a detailed description of what he did. She is telling anyone that will listen that I am lying and trying to isolate her son from his faaaaammmmmiiiiiilllllllyyyyyyy.
I could give less of a damn what the strangers in this town believe, but it is very hurtful that she is doing this. I have had her on an indefinite TO since court. She is to have no contact with me or the kids. Df is a grown man and can do as he pleases, so he does see her sometimes. She attempts to manipulate him into letting her see the kids. I am a sahm so this is not going to happen. she has awful baby rabies and I will call the cops if she shows up here after my lo3 comes. I just am trying to figure out if this is salvageable. I am considering telling DF that, in order for me to try to have a relationship with her, she needs to go to counseling. I am sure she would never agree, which I am counting on, but if she did, i think it would benefit everyone. He is trying to convince me to give her a chance, but she doesn't deserve it. How can I make him see that she is not safe for our family? She is really hurting my recovery.
*triggers*
(my phone posted before I was done.)
My BIL moved to our state about a year and a half ago. He and I always got along well and my los adored him. In sept 2013 I was 9wks pregnant and started bleeding. I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum and sent home. I ended up being sent out of town for testing bc there was no hb and my hormone levels were going crazy (up, plateau, skyrocket). My lo3 is healthy and the drs guess i had two embryos and lost one. In order to obtain an abortion in my state you have to go to the sole clinic in the state which was in the same town my OB was in. MIL, charming lady she is, tells everyone that will listen that I am having an abortion. That bitch didn't even know I was pregnant. so I get home and am drained. we ask BIL to come help DF so i can rest. That night BIL sexually assaulted me. We reported it to the police, who have not filed charges, and got a RO. MIL sat at the RO hearing and listened to a detailed description of what he did. She is telling anyone that will listen that I am lying and trying to isolate her son from his faaaaammmmmiiiiiilllllllyyyyyyy.
I could give less of a damn what the strangers in this town believe, but it is very hurtful that she is doing this. I have had her on an indefinite TO since court. She is to have no contact with me or the kids. Df is a grown man and can do as he pleases, so he does see her sometimes. She attempts to manipulate him into letting her see the kids. I am a sahm so this is not going to happen. she has awful baby rabies and I will call the cops if she shows up here after my lo3 comes. I just am trying to figure out if this is salvageable. I am considering telling DF that, in order for me to try to have a relationship with her, she needs to go to counseling. I am sure she would never agree, which I am counting on, but if she did, i think it would benefit everyone. He is trying to convince me to give her a chance, but she doesn't deserve it. How can I make him see that she is not safe for our family? She is really hurting my recovery.