Step Mom has always been a bit exhausting, annoying and she has manipulative tendencies. I tolerate her, to keep the peace, but see her and my dad maybe 4-5x a year. This email is pretty self-explanatory. If you need any more info just ask. "Mary" is my step sister, her youngest of four kids from a previous marriage. I see my step sibs maybe once or twice a year. We've never been super close growing up, I never lived with them, but there is no bad blood. They're all older than me, and Im in my 30s.
Rec'd this email from SM today, regarding my YDD's baptism party. I wasn't purposely excluding Mary, I invite a lot of people I would have liked due to space. I didn't invite any of my other step sibs. Do I black hole? Do I respond? Its crazy rude, right??!! WWYD?!
Hi Lyzz,
I don't know whether or not you've checked your telephone messages since Wednesday, but I called you in regards to the christening and Mary. As far as I know, Mary did not receive an invitation. I'm sure that she would've mentioned it, because she did tell me that you were unable to come to the Father's Day party tomorrow. The thing is, she will find out about it, and I could not lie if she asks me about the christening. Her feelings will definitely be hurt, and, honestly, I don't know why she wouldn't be included. Who knows, maybe she already has plans for that day. It's not as if you're having a sit-down dinner, and Dad told you on his call that I'd be more than happy to make the cake and anything else you want.( By the way, my feelings would not be hurt if you didn't want me to do the cake.) But, getting back to Mary, as I said on my message, she did feel bad when she wasn't invited to [ODD's] first birthday. I just told her that it was a small group, but I can't say that again. [BIL's wife] asked me that day if Mary was coming, and I said that she wasn't invited. She just said "Oh", and looked puzzled. Mary was at your wedding and baby showers, and wedding.
Lyzz, Dad and I try not to be interfering parents, and bug you kids. It's just that I'm in the middle on this one, especially since [my two full sisters] and the kids will be here tomorrow and might mention it. I just wanted to let you know how Dad and I feel. It's still not too late, and you could always e-mail her and say that you found her invitation and forgot to mail it, or something like that.
Love,
SM
Rec'd this email from SM today, regarding my YDD's baptism party. I wasn't purposely excluding Mary, I invite a lot of people I would have liked due to space. I didn't invite any of my other step sibs. Do I black hole? Do I respond? Its crazy rude, right??!! WWYD?!
Hi Lyzz,
I don't know whether or not you've checked your telephone messages since Wednesday, but I called you in regards to the christening and Mary. As far as I know, Mary did not receive an invitation. I'm sure that she would've mentioned it, because she did tell me that you were unable to come to the Father's Day party tomorrow. The thing is, she will find out about it, and I could not lie if she asks me about the christening. Her feelings will definitely be hurt, and, honestly, I don't know why she wouldn't be included. Who knows, maybe she already has plans for that day. It's not as if you're having a sit-down dinner, and Dad told you on his call that I'd be more than happy to make the cake and anything else you want.( By the way, my feelings would not be hurt if you didn't want me to do the cake.) But, getting back to Mary, as I said on my message, she did feel bad when she wasn't invited to [ODD's] first birthday. I just told her that it was a small group, but I can't say that again. [BIL's wife] asked me that day if Mary was coming, and I said that she wasn't invited. She just said "Oh", and looked puzzled. Mary was at your wedding and baby showers, and wedding.
Lyzz, Dad and I try not to be interfering parents, and bug you kids. It's just that I'm in the middle on this one, especially since [my two full sisters] and the kids will be here tomorrow and might mention it. I just wanted to let you know how Dad and I feel. It's still not too late, and you could always e-mail her and say that you found her invitation and forgot to mail it, or something like that.
Love,
SM