Share your stories of your seemingly normal DH's that resort back into major unicorn DuH's around the holidays.
Mine has always struggled with slaying his unicorn. I have never believed it to be totally dead. It just hibernates well most of the time. The holidays always make him a duh. He pines for the way he wishes things were, not for the reality. He has extremely LC with his family, where the kids and I are CO. He still talks with his GP's on his dad's side. Gmil is a total unfiltered selfabsorbed old bat who reminds me often that no one is good enough for her GS. I roll my eyes and go with it because if DH really needs to have some connection to family, I'd rather tolerate her than mil. But mind you I can only tolerate her in little doses. Like once every year or two. So last night DH comes to me and says he talked to gp's for Easter and he really wants to have them for a visit. As far as I know this wasn't discussed with them.He KNOWS where I stand on this. He can but the kids and I will leave because I am just not up for that. He fed me the line that he wants them to see where he lives before they die. We live 5hrs away in another state. So he wants to drive there, pick them up, drive back & stay overnight here and then take them back. So in the past when I say the kids and I will just leave and he can have time with them, he gets PISSED saying it's not the point. They need to see all of us. I remind him that I have no desire to take her manipulative accusations thrown at me about making up with mil. And our kids don't want to hang out with them either. I feel for him. But I just want to say "snap out of it". What part of leave me out of that family does he not get!? I've decided not to even address it with him unless he brings it up seriously. I will be resented if they die. He will not let me slide with that. I'm not trying to stop them. I just don't want to be around them myself. Duh ruins almost every holiday whining about fammmmmiiiiilllllyyyyyy even though he knows the reality. Why is it so hard for them. If my family treated him the way his treated me.... Heads would Roll followed by a permanent CO without hesitation. Why are men like this!?
Mine has always struggled with slaying his unicorn. I have never believed it to be totally dead. It just hibernates well most of the time. The holidays always make him a duh. He pines for the way he wishes things were, not for the reality. He has extremely LC with his family, where the kids and I are CO. He still talks with his GP's on his dad's side. Gmil is a total unfiltered selfabsorbed old bat who reminds me often that no one is good enough for her GS. I roll my eyes and go with it because if DH really needs to have some connection to family, I'd rather tolerate her than mil. But mind you I can only tolerate her in little doses. Like once every year or two. So last night DH comes to me and says he talked to gp's for Easter and he really wants to have them for a visit. As far as I know this wasn't discussed with them.He KNOWS where I stand on this. He can but the kids and I will leave because I am just not up for that. He fed me the line that he wants them to see where he lives before they die. We live 5hrs away in another state. So he wants to drive there, pick them up, drive back & stay overnight here and then take them back. So in the past when I say the kids and I will just leave and he can have time with them, he gets PISSED saying it's not the point. They need to see all of us. I remind him that I have no desire to take her manipulative accusations thrown at me about making up with mil. And our kids don't want to hang out with them either. I feel for him. But I just want to say "snap out of it". What part of leave me out of that family does he not get!? I've decided not to even address it with him unless he brings it up seriously. I will be resented if they die. He will not let me slide with that. I'm not trying to stop them. I just don't want to be around them myself. Duh ruins almost every holiday whining about fammmmmiiiiilllllyyyyyy even though he knows the reality. Why is it so hard for them. If my family treated him the way his treated me.... Heads would Roll followed by a permanent CO without hesitation. Why are men like this!?