Okay. I apologize if this ends up super long in advance. Or jumbled. I'm on a serious time crunch to relocate my lost spine.
A little BG. I used to have a spine. I lost it somewhere along the way. Should I say it was beaten out of me by MIL and other Inlaws and for a long time I was dealing with complete DUF. After many times of standing up for myself and then all hell breaking loose and being verbally and emotionally attacked I became the people pleasing peacekeeper that now just suffers silently. MIL is a complete psycho. Completely self entitled, selfish, and demanding, controlling, the list goes on. DHs family are all completely enmeshed. DH is the blacksheep, MIL openly favors SIL and constantly puts down DH. We have a 5 yr old DD and I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second DD. The baby rabies has completely taken hold. They want to take over with this baby.
Here's one example of when my spine slowly started disappearing. When ODD was just about 2 weeks old MIL and FIL came over unannounced. MIL was very ill, fever, hacking cough, runny nose, flu like symptoms. FIL was outside where our older neighbor was having a small birthday bbq on our patio (my mom kind of hosted it for her, mom was.staying with us to help with ODD, were very close and she became close friends with our older neighbor lady). Anyway. MIL is very and outwardly obviously ill with flu like symptoms and is telling us how miserable she is. Then she goes straight for sleeping 2 week old LO and wants to pick her up all while coughing. I stop her right there. I wasn't rude by any means and simply say "why don't you wait till you feel better before picking up LO, I'd hate for her to catch anything so young". She runs from our house hysterical as soon as I say this. I don't chase her. She's outside screaming and hollering and crying, trying to be the victim. Calling me every name. FIL storms in telling me how horrible I am. I go outside where the birthday guests are horrified by her behavior and MIL and FIL both begin verbally attacking me like wild animals. Threatening to never have anything to do with me again, telling me how I'm a sorry low life pos. Im deeply hurt and crying. DH is like "how could you do this?" I'm like WTF? Stuff like this happens everytime I try to stand up for myself. Turns into complete war.
Which brings me to why I'm here. Shit is about to hit the fan worse than it ever has before, all out world war 3 will ensue. We are planning on moving from our current location right up inlaws assess to be closer to my mother and my family in another state. Were we live now DHs fam is only a few miles in any direction, I'm completely isolated from any of my family and any support system of my own. With the take over of DD I'm currently baking in my womb being plotted out, my current misery, and desperately missing my own family and friends, we have decided to move to Texas. We already have a house over there squared away. We're just waiting for my insurance to be switched over before making the move in the next week or two. This is going to cause an all out war. To avoid any extra stress on me that I'm already drowning in, we aren't telling them until we now the exact date we're leaving and then only shortly before. MIL has severe baby rabies, undermines my wishes at every turn. She's already got all kinds of plans for my baby. She's delusional. I am so stressed from all of this, I'm dreading the fall out. When she finds out she is going to go insane. I wouldn't put it passed her to sabotage our move if she finds out too soon. I wouldn't be putting too much thought into escaping if our current situation want so enmeshed as we're currently living with MIL and FIL. We've been here 2 and a half weeks after our lease was up while waiting for the move in date of our new apt. But have abandoned the new apt situation when we decided to move across state lines.
How can we inform them of our plans while minimizing the fall out? Help I'm so stressed. Sorry I wrote a novel :/ sorry for any typos.
A little BG. I used to have a spine. I lost it somewhere along the way. Should I say it was beaten out of me by MIL and other Inlaws and for a long time I was dealing with complete DUF. After many times of standing up for myself and then all hell breaking loose and being verbally and emotionally attacked I became the people pleasing peacekeeper that now just suffers silently. MIL is a complete psycho. Completely self entitled, selfish, and demanding, controlling, the list goes on. DHs family are all completely enmeshed. DH is the blacksheep, MIL openly favors SIL and constantly puts down DH. We have a 5 yr old DD and I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second DD. The baby rabies has completely taken hold. They want to take over with this baby.
Here's one example of when my spine slowly started disappearing. When ODD was just about 2 weeks old MIL and FIL came over unannounced. MIL was very ill, fever, hacking cough, runny nose, flu like symptoms. FIL was outside where our older neighbor was having a small birthday bbq on our patio (my mom kind of hosted it for her, mom was.staying with us to help with ODD, were very close and she became close friends with our older neighbor lady). Anyway. MIL is very and outwardly obviously ill with flu like symptoms and is telling us how miserable she is. Then she goes straight for sleeping 2 week old LO and wants to pick her up all while coughing. I stop her right there. I wasn't rude by any means and simply say "why don't you wait till you feel better before picking up LO, I'd hate for her to catch anything so young". She runs from our house hysterical as soon as I say this. I don't chase her. She's outside screaming and hollering and crying, trying to be the victim. Calling me every name. FIL storms in telling me how horrible I am. I go outside where the birthday guests are horrified by her behavior and MIL and FIL both begin verbally attacking me like wild animals. Threatening to never have anything to do with me again, telling me how I'm a sorry low life pos. Im deeply hurt and crying. DH is like "how could you do this?" I'm like WTF? Stuff like this happens everytime I try to stand up for myself. Turns into complete war.
Which brings me to why I'm here. Shit is about to hit the fan worse than it ever has before, all out world war 3 will ensue. We are planning on moving from our current location right up inlaws assess to be closer to my mother and my family in another state. Were we live now DHs fam is only a few miles in any direction, I'm completely isolated from any of my family and any support system of my own. With the take over of DD I'm currently baking in my womb being plotted out, my current misery, and desperately missing my own family and friends, we have decided to move to Texas. We already have a house over there squared away. We're just waiting for my insurance to be switched over before making the move in the next week or two. This is going to cause an all out war. To avoid any extra stress on me that I'm already drowning in, we aren't telling them until we now the exact date we're leaving and then only shortly before. MIL has severe baby rabies, undermines my wishes at every turn. She's already got all kinds of plans for my baby. She's delusional. I am so stressed from all of this, I'm dreading the fall out. When she finds out she is going to go insane. I wouldn't put it passed her to sabotage our move if she finds out too soon. I wouldn't be putting too much thought into escaping if our current situation want so enmeshed as we're currently living with MIL and FIL. We've been here 2 and a half weeks after our lease was up while waiting for the move in date of our new apt. But have abandoned the new apt situation when we decided to move across state lines.
How can we inform them of our plans while minimizing the fall out? Help I'm so stressed. Sorry I wrote a novel :/ sorry for any typos.