Today is MIL's birthday, so I just texted her
"Happy Birthday!!! Hope you're having a wonderful day! 🎁🎉"
Nothing big, she didn't even acknowledge my birthday ON my birthday, instead told me happy birthday later in the week when we saw her, but I thought I would be the bigger person.
Then I get this response: "Thank you! KC!!"
Now, my name is not Casey/Kasey or anything like that, BUT my initials are K & C. (C is my maiden name.) Although my first name is a whopping three letters longer than KC. Occasionally she will address me by KC on the debil, but never in person or around DH. DH thinks this is a cute nickname (gag) and sees no harm. I see it as a PA way to remind me I am not a "true" member of their family. My feelings are hurt over this. How hard is it to spell out someone's name?
Then GMIL posts on MIL's debil page with this gem: "Happy Birthday, (MIL's name)! We love you! Dad (GFIL) says you are a good mother. You have done a fantastic job raising all 4! I love you!"
I have made some comments to DH about not wanting to leave DD (6m) with ANYONE because I am a SAHM, no need, EBF, etc etc, and I genuinely think his mom is going to boundary stomp from hell to high heaven if given the chance. (She has previously boundary stomped to SBIL/SSIL and they CO her, so I have enough reason to believe her first GC will spark some boundary stomps.)
I feel like that was a PA comment about me not letting them watch DD. On Christmas, GMIL said that GFIL is a really good baby sitter and he would love to watch DD. Although GFIL is in his 70s, can't sit/stand for too long, and we don't let him carry DD around, so how would he be appropriate child care for a 6m old? On Easter he decided he was going to carry DD around the steep incline of their yard to hunt her eggs. Bending over and up with her in his arms? Yeah no. Also on Easter YSIL (13) told SIL and I we were not part of the family because we are only married to OBIL/DH and not blood, but DD is family because she is blood. SIL and I flipped shit in front of OBIL #1 & 2, BIL #2's gf, and DH.
So DWIL-ers, are they being PA towards me?
Bonus: SMIL/FIL tell SIL and I we are not allowed in family pictures BUT MY DD is because she is faaaaamily, although I, HER MOTHER, am not allowed, and SIL (who worked for a hot minute with a photographer one summer) haaaaas to take their pictureeeee!
"Happy Birthday!!! Hope you're having a wonderful day! 🎁🎉"
Nothing big, she didn't even acknowledge my birthday ON my birthday, instead told me happy birthday later in the week when we saw her, but I thought I would be the bigger person.
Then I get this response: "Thank you! KC!!"
Now, my name is not Casey/Kasey or anything like that, BUT my initials are K & C. (C is my maiden name.) Although my first name is a whopping three letters longer than KC. Occasionally she will address me by KC on the debil, but never in person or around DH. DH thinks this is a cute nickname (gag) and sees no harm. I see it as a PA way to remind me I am not a "true" member of their family. My feelings are hurt over this. How hard is it to spell out someone's name?
Then GMIL posts on MIL's debil page with this gem: "Happy Birthday, (MIL's name)! We love you! Dad (GFIL) says you are a good mother. You have done a fantastic job raising all 4! I love you!"
I have made some comments to DH about not wanting to leave DD (6m) with ANYONE because I am a SAHM, no need, EBF, etc etc, and I genuinely think his mom is going to boundary stomp from hell to high heaven if given the chance. (She has previously boundary stomped to SBIL/SSIL and they CO her, so I have enough reason to believe her first GC will spark some boundary stomps.)
I feel like that was a PA comment about me not letting them watch DD. On Christmas, GMIL said that GFIL is a really good baby sitter and he would love to watch DD. Although GFIL is in his 70s, can't sit/stand for too long, and we don't let him carry DD around, so how would he be appropriate child care for a 6m old? On Easter he decided he was going to carry DD around the steep incline of their yard to hunt her eggs. Bending over and up with her in his arms? Yeah no. Also on Easter YSIL (13) told SIL and I we were not part of the family because we are only married to OBIL/DH and not blood, but DD is family because she is blood. SIL and I flipped shit in front of OBIL #1 & 2, BIL #2's gf, and DH.
So DWIL-ers, are they being PA towards me?
Bonus: SMIL/FIL tell SIL and I we are not allowed in family pictures BUT MY DD is because she is faaaaamily, although I, HER MOTHER, am not allowed, and SIL (who worked for a hot minute with a photographer one summer) haaaaas to take their pictureeeee!