Maybe it's me sometimes just wanting to give people the benefit of a doubt but anyone else wonder out there if their ILs are just really dense or if they truly want their son/daughter to be happy? For example, my DH has had to remind his dad that the most important thing to him is me and our child. That he would like for his dad to show concern and acknowledgement for us. Yet his dad and mom still don't. Like when he sends emails to check in, his dad will only ask about what is going on with DHs job. Nothing about me or our son. We even mentioned our son got sick for the first time last weekend and his dad never said anything about it...not that he hopes he's ok or anything. My DH claims his parents are just dense and oblivious. I feel like its intentional bc I feel like his parents don't like me and want us to split. Am I reading into things too much or would you think the same? In my eyes, it's pointless to keep reminding them bc they've been told numerous times. I can't force someone to care about or welcome me. But what I do have a problem with is them not showing any concern for their grandchild. We've already limited visits to a bare minimum but it pisses me off when they try to act like perfect grandparents to their friends and other family members when in reality they don't show concern at all.
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