So long story short I was living with my mom during the summer before my junior year of college when I found out I was pregnant. She was "upset and disappointed" because I hadn't finished school yet and even brought up abortion, but when I told her that wasn't an option for me she eventually came to terms with it. Her husband however was a different story. They had only been together since my senior year in high school and we didn't have a strong relationship from the beginning. He was kind of just there one day. My mom went from dating him, to surprise i'm engaged, to going to the courthouse to get married while we were at school one day. So he was kind of just rushed into my life as an adult. So anyway when my mom told him he said that I disrespected his house by living there for the summer (I don't see how as its not like I had sex in his house) and when my mom was outside talking to my grandmother on the phone he went out to the car and grabbed trash bags came back inside and threw them at me and told me to pack up "whatever" of my "shit" that would fit into the bags and leave. He stood there as I was crying/sobbing and packing up trash bags. I had no where to go. I tried going out into the living room and contacting my fathers wife on facebook to come get me, but he kicked me off when he saw me "on his computer". Eventually my mom came back inside and saw that he was trying to kick me out and they got in an argument and he stormed out. Of course they both tried to pin the argument and "stress in their relationship" on me. So a few weeks later I packed up all my things and moved 6 hours away into a house with my fiance.
My problem now is that now everyone is trying to rug sweep what happened. My mom keeps telling me that i'm "being rude" because I don't respond to her husbands text messages and I won't send him pictures of my baby. Now that she's here they're all fawning over her and expect me to just forget that when I was pregnant with her he tried to kick me out on the street with a garbage bag! I've skirted around actually just telling her why I don't reply to his messages or send pictures by saying that she can just share her pictures with him that I send her. I'm scared that she won't understand how I feel and when I tell her that I don't plan on involving her husband in my child's life she will either try and push it on me by getting my grandmother involved or blow up at me. Any advice on how to deal with this? Am I being unreasonable for holding a grudge?