My in laws are my BEC and I'm feeling really dumb about being so irritated. Everything they say bugs the shit out of me. They aren't generally that bad, but for the past couple months I've wanted to just scream at them.
Examples of things that annoy me - when I was visiting homestate a couple months ago I had lunch with inlaws and FIL kept talking about how the baby is going to have to play baseball when he's older and how we have to teach him to be lefthanded (the fuck?). He was really pushy with DH about baseball growing up, too. I tell him my kid will choose whatever activities he wants to do and his dominant hand can't be controlled then beandipped. Same lunch MIL tells me forcefully several times that she will be there for all of LO's birthdays. Okay, that's nice? I try to smile and make vague noises but she keeps pushing it. I get wanting to be there for your grandkid's birthdays, but don't tell me when I will be getting visitors. It is up to me who visits my home, not you.
Mother's Day - I send MIL a bouquet from DH and I but he's the only one who gets a thank you >.< He hints that they're from me too until I get a thank you text as well, though it's much less gushy than DH's. Whatever, next year he can get her flowers himself. While DH is skyping with his parents on Mother's Day, no one talks to me or mentions me at all - except at one point when FIL wants to see how big my baby bump is. Oh yeah, check out the incubation chamber but ignore the human attached. Okay. DH does not show them my belly and instead bean dips and shows off the nursery and talks about all the hard work I did setting it up.
Today - DH is skyping his parents while I sit and organize baby clothes. Somehow it gets on the topic of the baby looking like DH and FIL starts saying how the baby is going to look juuuuust like DH. Okay, cool, I'm sure there will be a resemblance. But then he continues on saying how the [lastname] family looks are dominant (...wut). Apparently I have contributed no genetic material and the baby is going to be a clone of DH or something. I finally snapped a little and said "I'm pretty sure the baby is going to look like my family, too. He's not being born through mitosis" DH was looking at me all wide eyed while FIL backtracked (I sort of yelled, maybe) and then finally the subject got changed.
Logically, I know my in laws aren't that bad compared to some. They give us space for the most part. They just annoy the crap out of me lately and I'm getting really paranoid about baby rabies. I am dreading their visit after the baby is born because every word out their mouths lately makes me all stabby. Thank goodness they'll be staying in a hotel and I can kick them out of my house when I'm tired of them.