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My husband and I currently are stationed in Texas, we're originally from Florida which is where both of our families live. His mother is overly involved in our lives and has the delusional idea she has a say in our relationship as well as raising our almost 3 yr old son because grraaaannddamaa knows best and she has a right to put her 2 cents in on EVERYTHING. She tried to be in the room when my son was born thankfully I had my mom and sister to shut her down and put her in her place, after 22 hours of labor I couldn't fight her, so I'm very grateful I had them. Needless to say as much as I miss my family I love having a couple of states between us.
Anyways on to my current issue, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and our original plan was my mom was going to fly out on my sons birthday which is a week before my due date and watch him while I'm in labor then my father and ils will fly out after Dd is born. Well DH (sometimes duh) informs me that now his mom is planning on flying out when my mom does and that she wants to be there when dd is born. Honestly she is my bec and my mother doesn't like her either because of the stress she puts on me and my relationship. Thankfully we only have one spare room and I've made it very clear my mom will be staying with us and his mom will be in a hotel.
My question is how do I put up with this woman for at least a week with it being just ds, my mom & I, since my husband will be working up until the birth and on top of that plan my ds birthday without mil taking over AND avoid mil trying to force herself into my birth, since she went through all the trouble of coming early to see her graaanndbaabbyyy and if I'm too out of it trusting DH not to be a duh and let her stomp all over my birth plan?
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My husband and I currently are stationed in Texas, we're originally from Florida which is where both of our families live. His mother is overly involved in our lives and has the delusional idea she has a say in our relationship as well as raising our almost 3 yr old son because grraaaannddamaa knows best and she has a right to put her 2 cents in on EVERYTHING. She tried to be in the room when my son was born thankfully I had my mom and sister to shut her down and put her in her place, after 22 hours of labor I couldn't fight her, so I'm very grateful I had them. Needless to say as much as I miss my family I love having a couple of states between us.
Anyways on to my current issue, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and our original plan was my mom was going to fly out on my sons birthday which is a week before my due date and watch him while I'm in labor then my father and ils will fly out after Dd is born. Well DH (sometimes duh) informs me that now his mom is planning on flying out when my mom does and that she wants to be there when dd is born. Honestly she is my bec and my mother doesn't like her either because of the stress she puts on me and my relationship. Thankfully we only have one spare room and I've made it very clear my mom will be staying with us and his mom will be in a hotel.
My question is how do I put up with this woman for at least a week with it being just ds, my mom & I, since my husband will be working up until the birth and on top of that plan my ds birthday without mil taking over AND avoid mil trying to force herself into my birth, since she went through all the trouble of coming early to see her graaanndbaabbyyy and if I'm too out of it trusting DH not to be a duh and let her stomp all over my birth plan?