How do you explain to your grandmother or any other family member that this isn't their business, and likely won't be resolved? My entire childhood I was beaten, called stupid, molested by my step brother who admitted it and then by my step father who still to this day claims I am lying. My mother was the person I went to for help at 16 and her response was that I needed to find proof!!
Anyway as an adult I had a circumstance come up that has forced me to deal with all of this. I ended up deciding that it was best to seperate myself and my family from my mother and her husband. (Who is my abuser.) This time I told her that she is to not come back and I told her my step father abused me and I just couldn't keep listening to her.
In the past you guys informed me that my mother is nacissitic so sadly I don't see her ever facing that she did wrong. For obvious reasons I think my step father is going to stick to his guns about me lying too.
This is causing all of my family to hate me except my brother who just doesn't talk about it all, (His father and mother.) my nana who talks about how I need to resolve it and how I broke my mothers heart. (Only one mother blah blah blah) She also told me I had to understand that my siblings hate me for good reason since I am being mean to their mother. Though she also insists she isn't taking sides.
So how do you explain this? I tried to tell her that for years I have been abused and being treated like garbage and no one cared if it hurt me. I tried to explain that I will try to keep a sibling relationship IF I can. Have you been able to CO some, but not all family members?