If I die, it was MIL! (Long)

I have two background stories I am unsure how to link.


One is about MIL wanting to take LO to see Easter bunny for the first time without me.


The second, how I have developed aniexty before seeing the inlaws.


BG: I got really sick after birth and since my mom moved away a week before birth, mil got to come help with lo twice. She was great in the beginning but after the first two months she started getting obsessive and we started backing her down. She didn't like it.


I always thought she had some sort of personality disorder but I have no clue which one.


I am mildly allergic to chocolate. It won't kill me but I get hives and stomach ache from it.


FF: mil came to visit yesterday. She brought two mini banana bread loafs which she has in the past. DH doesn't really like them so I normally munch on them. She knows this.


I ate the first one yesterday/this morning with tea. I started the second one tonight with my tea and I noticed A LOT of walnuts in it. I ate two slices when I saw what looked like a chocolate chip. I pulled the loaf apart and there were a couple more in there.


They were well hidden in the nuts and were not enough for me to taste.


Yes, she makes them herself and never made them with chocolate before. She didn't say that one had chocolate. And yes she knows I am allergic.


I told my DH and after thinking about it, he told me not to let mil around without him here.


Of course it could all be a mistake and could all be explained away. My DH plans on bring it up but I sure nothing will come of it.


So I FEEL like maybe she was toying with making me sick to play mommy? At least this is some sort jab at power?


Does anyone know a personality disorder were all emotions come out very strong and gas lighting all the time while always being the victim?


Oh, besides a small stomach ache, I am fine.