It is apparently the day of in-laws driving me nuts.
First is an ongoing beef with my MIL. She lives in the boonies of NY, in the hills on the border of NY & PA. There is NOTHING there except some dying oil towns. My husband and I are currently trying to move from Northwest Indiana to my hometown in Wisconsin to be closer to family and a support network.
ANYTIME I post ANYTHING on facebook she sends me a private message all butthurt about how SHE wants to babysit and SHE wants to be closer and implies we should move to middle of nowhere USA where neither of us would have careers.
I don't even respond, her co-dependency is her issue, not mine. (And not my DH's because he doesn't feed her co-dependency either).
The one that really has me annoyed is my sister's bf. He's basically a BIL because of their relationship. They have been together for years, she is more of a mom to his 4 kids than their moms (various) are, etc.
BG: on Memorial Day they decided not to drive the 45 minutes from their home to my mom's because they had been camping and were "too tired" to join the family cookout. And I have seen this guy all of ONCE in like the four years they've been together. I did however drive myself and my two boys out to see her the day after memorial day because we were still in town for a different interview Dh had.
We are going home over 4th of July because hubby has an interview on July 3rd (again with trying to move home). So that means tomorrow (7/2) we will drive 4 1/2 hours to my mom's house AFTER my husband gets off work. Then on 7/3 he has an interview that is scheduled to last 3+ hours because they are doing both 1st & 2nd interviews at the same time.
After I told mom about these plans and that we planned to stay in town to go to my hometown 4th of July festival my sister then tried to change our plans without consulting me, so that after all this crazy on the 3rd, when my DH will be exhausted, she wants us to drive the 45 minutes to her house and stay up late at their house partying and go to their tiny town fireworks show.
We said no, we will be exhausted after two days of crazy and there's no way we would be good company.
Today my mom calls me and says my sister is begging for us to make the drive and her BF is saying if we don't go then they aren't coming to any more family events. I said too bad. As I've told them previously, once we move home I will HAPPILY drive the 45 minutes to her house and visit them, but it is just too much on these weekend visit trips to drive out there everytime. Besides, she almost never reciprocates the effort and I'm done being the only one trying.
Mom I am certain is trying to push the blame on DH, but I keep telling her we made the decision together and it's just too much. I'm sure I'll hear it 17 more times between now and the end of the 3rd.