Sorry I just need to vent because I'm pretty sure no one else in my life gives a damn... my eldest sister moved here from washington like 3 years ago. After a tumultuous life of really poor decisions she finally moved closer 6 years after her divorce once she caught her bf of 6 years cheating on her just like her dh so her kids could have good role models and my parents could help raise her children and help with her finances (as if they weren't ANYHOW, they sent her money monthly and paid for her so she could go to school and get a trade so she could support her and her 4 kids). SO, that's the back story...
She moves here 3 years ago and has basically been living off my parents. She's sometimes held jobs, but been fired multiple times, all of which "aren't her fault" according to my parents and her (I've never been fired so I find her luck just a tad suspicious). She always finds some reason why the job isn't good enough. After moving here she gave us all a promise she wasn't going to date because she felt like God was telling her to be alone for 5 years. Unbeknownst to us she started dating almost immediately after moving here.
Fast forward 3 years finally the guy asks her to marry her. She moves in with him and moves her kids to oklahoma to his job site, uproots them AGAIN, moves schools etc... then a couple months later out of "guilt" because she's living with him out of wedlock she all of a sudden says she's getting married, with 3 weeks notice, THE WEEKEND OF MY 30th BIRTHDAY. Ok, I don't usually throw a big deal but I'd asked for the whole weekend off for this one MONTHS in advance. Nevermind that it's my birthday weekend, she asks me to drop everything and drive up 3 hours to take photos at her wedding... she knew I had requested the entire weekend off. I got guilt tripped into it by everyone because I would look like a complete bitch if I didn't do it..so I went.. even though I was (pregnant and wasn't far enough along to tell anyone and had the FLU to boot!) sicker than a dog and had to tote my two kids there as well... that whole weekend was hell because I was promised we were driving home the next day so I could have the rest of my weekend, my sister guilt tripped me in front of the entire room of people to get me to stay longer because my parents wanted to and they were my ride... so that pissed me off.. then I got to share my parents motel room with my two kids and got to sleep on a pull out couch with my two kids..GOT NO SLEEP... the next day she acts as if I'm an inconvenience because all of a sudden they want to hang out with someone else!!
My Dad absolutely adores her new dh because he is former marine, owns his own business and is a construction worker (like my dad)...so the favoritism is VERY obvious.
So, fast forward. I became a SAHM for many many reasons this may, one huge one was my mom was just getting beyond on my nerves taking freedoms with my children as if they were hers because she was their main care taker. She still will text me telling me one of them might have to use the bathroom! Etc. She is critical and constantly telling me my kids are going to be screwed up for whatever reason...
So, now that my sister is finally "settled" down and I'm a SAHM they completely ignore me and my kids... my son literally has to stalk them on the phone to get them to do anything with them... My sister and her new dh and her kids just recently moved back because their job ended abruptly (no pay) and moved into my parents other house on the property. The guy is literally moving his entire trailers, skid loader, go carts, tractors, RV, BOAT, etc on their property!!!! He's taking out trees wherever he wants to make a "go cart track" and they have no problem with it!!! They let him do whatever the hell he wants and my sister too...
I'm really getting angry because now all of a sudden it's like I don't exist. They make plans ALL THE TIME with my sister and her new husband and I don't even get invited to anything that literally ALL the other family is invited to. I just found on facebook they all went to the beach today. My son tried to call them and they didn't pick up the phone all day...
And yet, when my mom ISN'T invited she randomly showed up at one of my kids events that I take them to every now and then, without asking and took over.
I am stumped as to what even to do...I know I'm pregnant, but their behavior is absolutely pissing me off. I wish I hadn't bought a house in this area so close to them then it wouldn't be like I was so obviously being ignored when I'm literally 10 minutes down the road.
Plus, when my sister moved here she was like "I can't wait to be closer to my sister and her kids so I can be involved". I could literally count on one hand the amount of times she has done ANYTHING with me, texted me or called me. She has literally made ZERO effort to have a relationship with me and she's 40! Anytime I try to make plans there's always some reason why she can't...
At this point I'm ready to just say DONE and stop acting like we're family.
Anyway, PHEW, sorry it's so long I'm just really worked up...3 years in the making.