When Ds1 was born, he was the first grandchild. Mil lives ten minutes away and would call and ask duh if she could bring over a different relative or friend every damn day for two weeks. If she didn't bring someone she would still come over every day. I felt like the care taker wench and hand washing enforcer bitch. I missed any real bonding time because relatives were always snuggling him.
Fast forward five years. I am pregnant with what will be her fourth grand child- my second (ds1 has special needs so we have waited until now) . I just can't deal with this shit again. I don't want ten people holding vigil at the hospital and I really don't want any of the ILs coming over at all for at least a week. I am ok with lots of visits the two days we are in the hospital. But I want to be left alone at home! Is this unreasonable? Also, is it unreasonable that I DO want my own mom in delivery and coming over whenever? I feel like I have to set the same rules for everyone. Or do I?
So twofold post: need advice on if my wishes are reasonable and then help coming up with a firm tactful way to communicate how it is going to be. I do better in writing.
Thank you!
Fast forward five years. I am pregnant with what will be her fourth grand child- my second (ds1 has special needs so we have waited until now) . I just can't deal with this shit again. I don't want ten people holding vigil at the hospital and I really don't want any of the ILs coming over at all for at least a week. I am ok with lots of visits the two days we are in the hospital. But I want to be left alone at home! Is this unreasonable? Also, is it unreasonable that I DO want my own mom in delivery and coming over whenever? I feel like I have to set the same rules for everyone. Or do I?
So twofold post: need advice on if my wishes are reasonable and then help coming up with a firm tactful way to communicate how it is going to be. I do better in writing.
Thank you!