I've been mulling these questions over and over in my head for 2 days now, and I just need advice. I can't see this one from an outside perspective like I normally can. Probably cuz I'm too pissed. I have posted here before, so I have BG, and I can link it - but apparently, it's EXTREMELY TRIGGERy..so, I'll just do a quick sum up.
1) My ED is an extremely narcissistic, self-righteous, psychotic, and abusive person. And also VERY manipulative. (We've CO'd her since Jan of this year).
2) My sister came here to this country to study at our (DH and I) college. I helped her from step 1 til the end to get her here successfully. (There's a point to this)
3) My sister is very PA - also made a post about her. (Stupid crap I guess, now in hindsight).
Now onto the problem (or so we think) at hand:
I recieved a text message from ED this past Saturday. It was super long.
[Side note: we had blocked her with our cell provider and we just found out that they only block numbers for 4 or so months. She'll be blocked again of course.]
So onto the text (which is bolded), it basically said the following (it was written in another language):
I am writing you because I heard that you were going to help MS (old friend from my home country whom I actually haven't spoken to in over a year, but friends with on the debil) get a medical internship here in the US. Don't you DARE do that. Can you be any more stupid?! What is wrong with you? You're going to give away the fruit of all my hard work, sweat and tears to HER?! She's a [Insert race], and once she gets here, she'll just ignore you. She'll just laugh at you, the [insert derogatory term for race regarding me], who got knocked up with her white husband, and has no education (I'm currently going to school and I'm about to be a junior - I'm 23!! And I must mention that I didn't go to college right out of HS BECAUSE of ED). And once MS gets here and knows how things work, she'll just bring all her [insert race] people, and she'll forget all about you. She wouldn't even be grateful and you'll just be a laughing stock to all the [insert race] people. Then MS will just ignore you and you will cease to exist, except for being the butt of their jokes. So don't you DARE help her. Remember all the times she looked down upon you, and laughed at you. Remember all the times she looked down upon your sisters and how she was a big cause of their grieves for so long after you were gone. So don't you dare help her!
I just want to clarify that my friend has actually helped me out many times from over the years even though we'd been apart forever. She was also the ONLY one that ever stood up for me from our peers, my family, etc. And here's my biggest confusion: I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE FRACK SHE'S TALKING ABOUT!! Because like I stated, the last time my friend and I spoke was a year ago when my LO was born!
So now I'm here thinking one of two things happened: she's cray-cray and made the whole thing up in her head to get a response from me, or my PA sister (whom I haven't really spoken to at all for awhile) told the ED some crazy lies.
I think what really bothers me about the whole thing is that, EVERYTHING she said in the text that my friend would allegedly do if she gets here, is EXACTLY what my PA sister has done since she got here!! My sister actually told my DH that she and I were fighting, etc., and I had ABSOLUTELY no idea what she was referring to. Apparently, our "fighting" was her excuse for her ignoring us. Like I listed on #2, it was I who'd helped her completely with everything for her to get here, and to top it off, we hadn't seen each other in over 10 years...I thought she'd have liked to spend more time with at least me, and her niece. But nope, we were in some imaginary fight that I had no idea about, and that was her reason for ignoring us and completely ditching us over, and over, and over again.
And now, my youngest sister is planning on coming here and of course, she's the one helping her get here (because they refuse to talk to us), and refuses to update us at all on anything. Like I said, she's doing EXACTLY everything that my mom is accusing my friend will do to me, if/should I help her.
My first reaction is to just whip out a reply with something along the lines of, "HAHAHAHAHA! That is HILARIOUS considering I haven't spoken to MS in over a year and I have no idea what kind of BSC you're talking about. Also, I find it HILARIOUS that your daughter, my sister, the one I and my "white" husband, actually DID help get here, is doing EXACTLY everything you have said."
But I cooled down a bit, and I just want to BH the F outta that shiz. But I admit, a small part of me wants to get down to the bottom of this and see where this crazy idea came from. DH thinks I should call my sister and see what she has to say about all this, and see if she's the one giving crazy ideas to ED.
I don't know...I think the best course of action would be to BH but...URGH! I'M SO PISSED! This female just has a way of getting under my skin I guess.
Anyway, rip me a new one if you must, cuz my unicorn actually reared its ugly head and was thinking about doing something nice right before this text.
And if you need any clarifications, just let me know. Writing this actually brought out too many other crap, and I think I lost my coherent self somewhere. Bottom line, I just need outside perspective.