Ok DWIL I got the courage to post. I've been lurking for a while so I know I'll get the advice I need. So me and dh are expecting lo # 2 in october this year. When we decided to tell our families we let them know that we don't want any visitors this year (we live on the west coast, all our family lives on the east coast). I'm pretty sure it's not getting through to them even though we've said flat out no several times. We told everyone to visit next year and just ask us a good time to expect them, simple right? Well my mom insists on coming in october (I keep shutting her down telling her no, the door won't be answered, it's a waste of her time) and she shuts up about it, then the next month says the same crap again. -_- MIL keeps saying she's going to come for Thanksgiving and again we tell her no, come next year. Both of them insist that we will need help and the baaaaaby will be new and two children are so hard. (LO # 1 is 4 and is awesome, we have no problems and I'm pretty sure I can handle my own damn kids). Either way, we shut them down and tell them no and that's it, so everyone is well aware that NO visitors are allowed this year. Well I got a call from my mom today telling me that my grandmother bought a ticket and is coming to visit in October. I told my mom wtf you should have told her we already made it clear we didn't want visitors (nevermind that my grandmother never even discussed this with me! and I talk to her atleast twice a month). My mom says well she's old so be nice and just let her visit so you can get help. Me: "no mom, no visitors, I'm not going to feel bad saying no when I wasn't even asked in the first place. What did she expect to do show up and we just let her in??" DWIL please help me. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I do NOT want anyone visiting. I haven't called her yet because I'm angry about her going behind my back and DH is pretty furious about it. Is there a way to tell her no without making her feel bad? I really do welcome her next year, when I'm expecting her, but not this year and not unannounced. Help.
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