FIL to move in? What would you do??

Okay long post but here it goes..

Some background info: I am 23 hubby is 25. This is our first baby due end of October. We just bought and moved into our first home. It is a fixer upper but it is our dream home on the perfect property.

We now live 2 hours from our parents. And 30 minutes to the nearest city.

FIL decided two years ago that he wanted to go back to school and become an electrical technician. We are proud of him for following his dreams. He graduated two months ago and was looking for work since. He has been doing interviews in our town as well as their hometown.

He got offered a job in our town. And accepted. Now it gets complicated.

Originally my in laws were talking about selling their house and moving closer to us. So we agreed to allow him to stay with us while they sold their house so he wouldn't have to commute an hour and a half to work.

Now, the talk is they aren't ready to sell their house. MIL is going to stay there while FIL works here. Then FIL hopes to go Alberta to work in a years time while MIL stays at their current location. So he would be living with us for a whole year.

I broke down the other day. I don't know if I am being realistic or if it is the hormones.

My hubby is very gentle and kind and compassionate and he knows that I am very delicate and can't handle being talked to in certain ways. He takes after his mother. FIL is very loud and less considerate and often pushy. He has only been with us for a week and I already broke down crying 3 days in a row because of things he has done.

He is a great help with the house as we have to completely re-do the upstairs where the bedrooms are. I am grateful for all the help he is.

Now. Being a FTM I have this vision of what it will be like to bring my baby home for the first time. It does not include my FIL. I want to be alone with my husband and my baby in our home. I am already stressed out with FIL here and I think after the baby is born I will struggle with having him around all the time.

I haven't talked to hubby yet. I plan on it but I want to make sure I am not being irrational and emotional.

Last night I cried myself to sleep because I was so stressed out. This morning on the way to church I just cried in the car. I feel my body getting stressed and no amoung of breathing can take this feeling away. I know it's not good for me or baby to be this stressed.

I want to help him because I know it is the selfless thing to do. But I am worried having him around will attribute to postpartum depression, severe stress and tension between me and my husband.

I just don't know what I should do about it. When I asked in the other board they said just to kick him out and make him get his own apartment in town, but where he has helped us so much and they have been struggling with money I want to help.

If you were in my position what would you do? What are the options you would consider? How would you bring it up to your husbands? I asked in my birth club, they sent me here to get some honest opionions.