So this is my first time posting on this group, hey. I mostly just need to vent because DH is tired of listing to me bitch. I guess I'm just looking for someone to say "yep, she's cray cray". Cause I'm feeling a little vulnerable right now:(
Short version:
We are spending ds's first birthday actual day (a Thursday) with just us three.
SIL completely lost her shit via text message to both of us because we've decided not to go to their house and have his actual birthday day there, even though I've booked a clubhouse venue for a big party on the following Sunday to which everyone is invited, including friends.
Background: this is nothing new. His family has always, before we were even married, demanded that all holidays and birthdays and special occasions take place else at their house, and they live on the very edge of town, 30 min or more away from everything you might consider civilization.
We live sharing a house with my mother, in town. So there's a lot of resentment there because they think she gets to spend all this extra time with him. By share a house, I mean she sleeps here like twice a week and spends literally all the rest of her time at work and her boyfriend's house. And yet resentment.
When I say she blew up, I mean she completely lost it and started cursing at me via text. My favorite below.
"You know what C I love you and I I understand D is not our but we discussed this last time you were at our house and how it was a family tradition to have cake with family on the birthday. I find it extremely offensive that you are denying us that with D's first birthday. You married into this family and along comes with that is our traditions. We barely see D and its like pulling teeth to spend time with him alone and develop our own relationship with him. I feel you are also denying us that too and I'm quit sick of it. My family bends over backwards for you and (DH) and you guys always take advantage and are never willing to give. This was extremely important to us and if you care you would reconsider."
Oh yeah... because I'm the woman, MY family's traditions don't matter at all. And I never let them see him... except for 6+ hours every single week when we spend our very small income on gas to get all the way out there. And it's totally like pulling teeth to see him, especially since I remind them every week they can drop by whenever they want literally because I'm a SAHM and I can make it work. Pulling teeth. With an engraved invitation. Seriously.
Oh and to be totally fair, we did "discuss" the "family tradition" that my husband says isn't actually a family tradition btw. She said something about it, and we replied we haven't figured out what we're gonna do yet. That counts as a discussion right?
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