I seriously need to vent::::
A small tidbit of background first:: My mom got evicted from her place for failing to pay her rent. No reason for that, she is diabled and if she would actually budget her money, this wouldn't happen to her. But every 5-6 months or so she gets evicted and has to move. Someone in the family always bails her out. This time it was my and my DH (James). She lived with us for 3 months and did nothing but sit on her ass at the computer all day and spend all her money. When we finally asked her for help supporting her and my 16 yo brother (Steven), she bailed on us and moved in my my dad (her EX for more than 16 years!) with absolutely no notice what-so-ever and left all her furniture and a bunch of boxes of their crap. We are STILL cleaning up the mess she left behind.
OK, so now my vent::::
So my mom got a letter here today from her storage place. It was marked "URGENT". I figured I'd be nice and open it and call her to let her know about it since I obviously could let her know quicker than forwarding the mail to her. It was an eviction notice because she hasn't been paying it. I had talked to her at the beginning of the month and she said that she paid it. So of course I got ticked when I read it. I called her to tell her about it and since it took me calling her NINE times before she'd answer me I was pretty mad by the time she answered. I also was making dinner and fighting off the kids while James was napping so my mood wasn't the greatest. So maybe I handled it a little poorly and talked a little harshly and even called her a liar and told her I wasn't her secretary. But then she sends me this shit::
"I am very upset with you. I don't deserve to be yelled at or called a lier. I was sure I had already paid that storage. That is not called a lie. that is called making a mistake. It is not your place to get on to me about my bills anyway. You are not my mother and you are not my boss. You need to forward my mail and not open it. That happens to be against the law. I really don't know what has happened to you, Shannon, you never used to treat me this way. You are really rude and mean to me and not just me but a lot of other ppl as well. You need help with your anger issues. you are taking all your anger out on ppl who really love and care about you. I would die for you. I love you with all my heart and you are killing me with your attitude and meanness. All your yelling and ranting at everyone has got to stop. Logan doesn't deserve it, Neither do James, the girls, and everyone else in the family. I refuse to be treated the way you have been treating me. It is the main reason I left there. Sorry if that hurts your feelings, but it is the truth. Seriously think about it look inside and see how you are treating everyone. You need help-I hope you get some help and pull it together before the baby gets here."
Uh, EXCUSE ME!? I read that to James and he goes, "Oh whatever, your anger "issues" didn't start until after they moved in and you've been awesome since they left." So I respond thus:::
" Oh so I'm the bad person for letting you and Steven live off us and hardly asking for anything and then when we do ask for your help, you move to KC with NO notice and leave us fucked over. And don't threaten me with that "against the law" shit. YOU need to forward your own damn mail. I'm not your secretary or your mom. I opened that because it said URGENT and I figured I could get you the message faster than you could get it since you've made no attempt to get the rest of your crap out of my house. And I don't appreciate being taken advantage of and then you bailing on us. So go ahead and get your feelings all hurt and cry. Don't put people in financial strain and then bail on them and then have the nerve to tell them that they have anger issues. I don't need help with my anger. You are a grown ass woman who needs to take control of her finances and not depend on other people to bail you out all the time. James and I weren't doing awesome, but we were getting by until we let you guys come live with us and now we are still struggling to get caught up. So I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but it is the truth. You need help- I hope you figure that out and pull it together before you need to be bailed out again by another one of your kids."
So I'm pretty sure we won't be talking for awhile.... Now that I've calmed down some I realize I probably shouldn't have reacted the way I did but damn. James says he's glad I finally stood up to her.