This is probably going to be rambling but I need advice because I'm so upset.
My 2 year old was diagnosed with cancer last November. She had 7 months of treatment before being declared NED. Most of her treatment was done outside of our home hospital (at St Jude and then at CHOP), so we didn't have a lot of family support in the hospital.
On Thursday night she got sick. She had a seizure and spiked a high fever and nobody knows why yet, she's been in the hospital since Thursday night. My parents flew in from AR to see her. I've had boundary issues (minor) with my parents in the past but they were always so respectful and supportive from afar when DD was sick the first time, so I didn't think twice about it.
They weren't able to see her yesterday because they got in too late but they came to see her today. The first thing my mom did was swoop in and sit by her bedside, hovering over her and comforting her every time she cried for mommy. We put the kibosh on that and sent her and my dad for dinner. When she came back she announced that she was going to spend the night with DD in her room. DH and I have been taking shifts with her because we have a young baby too. Only a parent or legal guardian is allowed to be in the room with DD overnight. So I helpfully suggested Hey mom why don't you come home with me and you can play with baby DD? she said, if I can't stay on the fold out bed I'll sleep in the crib with DD. To cut a long drama story short, she argued with my husband and ended up being taken out of the hospital by security.
I am so upset. I haven't stopped crying since I got home from the hospital. My baby is sick. That in and of itself is horrific and stressful and I'm still dealing with the effects of trauma from when she first got sick, I have no energy for family drama at this time. What do I say to her, how do I handle this? I just want to climb under a blanket and cry. DD loves her grandmother and this is just going to cause additional stress to her. I'm so upset. advice please.