First time posting on this board. I originally came to read the drama, I never really thought I had any problems after cutting off mil about 2 months into my marriage. Recently I have allowed my gm back into my life after LC since i was 16 and a 2 yr CO.
Bg: she remarried when I was 5.
*trigger* i was groomed and molested by her new dh from 6 yr to 15 yrs old. At 13 I got pg from it but he caused me to lose it. I started telling gm what was going on from about age 8. She said she would talk to him, but it didnt stop. I gave up at 12 and accepted my fate... I told my mom at 12 and she blamed me and still made me go to gm's house.
What confused me then was that gm would put me down ( appearance mostly) and her dh would then call me pretty and bring me flowers and candy and jewelry. She would always ask about my period and stuff. I thought she was being a busybody tho and never thought anything about it. After the mc I told her again everything her dh had done. Her response, "i believe you, but i wont divorce him bc i want his money"
Last yr her dh committed suicide, so i resumed contact. *end trigger*
She helped me thoughout my pregnancy this yr, and is very involved w LO now 3 weeks old.
My problem: she keeps saying my baby has an old soul and must be reincarnated. Which is different then what i believe but whatever. Until she started saying he was her dh reincarnated. I told her no and not to mention it again but she kept saying it. I told her that even tho i dont believe in reincarnation, w the evil he has done, he wouldnt be reincarnated as a man. She said well then it is the child you lost reincarnated. I walked away and took a shower so i could cry in peace. I think i didnt handle the situation well though. She is coming back over today to see LO and i know this will come back up. How do i respond to this?
Bg: she remarried when I was 5.
*trigger* i was groomed and molested by her new dh from 6 yr to 15 yrs old. At 13 I got pg from it but he caused me to lose it. I started telling gm what was going on from about age 8. She said she would talk to him, but it didnt stop. I gave up at 12 and accepted my fate... I told my mom at 12 and she blamed me and still made me go to gm's house.
What confused me then was that gm would put me down ( appearance mostly) and her dh would then call me pretty and bring me flowers and candy and jewelry. She would always ask about my period and stuff. I thought she was being a busybody tho and never thought anything about it. After the mc I told her again everything her dh had done. Her response, "i believe you, but i wont divorce him bc i want his money"
Last yr her dh committed suicide, so i resumed contact. *end trigger*
She helped me thoughout my pregnancy this yr, and is very involved w LO now 3 weeks old.
My problem: she keeps saying my baby has an old soul and must be reincarnated. Which is different then what i believe but whatever. Until she started saying he was her dh reincarnated. I told her no and not to mention it again but she kept saying it. I told her that even tho i dont believe in reincarnation, w the evil he has done, he wouldnt be reincarnated as a man. She said well then it is the child you lost reincarnated. I walked away and took a shower so i could cry in peace. I think i didnt handle the situation well though. She is coming back over today to see LO and i know this will come back up. How do i respond to this?