Hi ladies. I am mostly a lurker and have learned quite a lot over the last year or so. Today I was out shopping with LO (12 weeks), and my grandmother called my DH for help with her tablet. He is an electronics guy and she has no clue how to use the tablet as it was a gift a few weeks back. He tells her to come on over and he would be happy to help her. They've always had a good relationship and he truly didn't mind her coming over while I was gone.
He tells me later that after he had shown her a few things on the tablet she sat down and said that she didn't want to insult him but she was concerned about his weight and wondered if he had ever considered weight loss surgery. (DH is overweight, has actually considered surgery, saw a doctor, and was told that he wasnt a candidate because there really isnt anything metabolically wrong and he isnt considered morbidly obese. She didn't know this because well - none of her business) She proceeded to tell him about a relative of mine who had the surgery and received it for free (not sure on the truth of this AT ALL), and she would look into it for him! (UHHH SAY WHAT???!!!) She went on to say that she is concerned that when DS is older and starts walking and running, DH won't be able to keep up with him. Again, none of her business and not her problem)
DH told me this as a guess what your grandmother said this evening. He says he doesn't want me to say anything because he doesn't want to cause problems in an otherwise good relationship. I feel like she needs to know that she has way overstepped here, and there should be consequences.
So wise ladies, should I honor my DH's wishes and keep my trap shut? Or do I confront my grandmother? And if I should confront her, what exactly should I say?