Hello everyone I made this anonymous account because SO's sister is an enmeshed, boundary stomping, unicorny, entitled BEC. A member of this group actually. She's even posted on here before asking for advice on how to get her brother to be part of her kids' life because mean old SIL and their LO took him away from her.
I lmao when I read the comments telling her to leave us alone haha!!
Anyway last time I posted on here she ran and told SO about my post. He actually told her it was something he and I had already discussed. This put her in a TO from LO and me. Unfortunately SO has a bad case of the glitery rainbow pooping unicorns and does not want to be part of the TO.
Here is my issue, LO's birthday is right around the corner. SO and I have not discussed it yet but I know he's going to want to take LO to his mom's house for the birthday party. They are all super enmeshed and ALWAYS celebrate everyone's birthday there. We live in a super tiny apartment and won't be able to have a party in it. Also we are on a very tight budget and can't really rent out a venue.
I want to plan a party myself and have full control of planning it. I know if I ask SO for help he'll only call his mom or say, “Let's just have it at my moms house and she'll take care of everything. ".
I guess what I want advice on is, a) good budget party ideas of where I can have the party that won't be too expensive (I've honestly never been to a one year old's birthday party lol), b) how can I let SO know that I don't want his mom to expect she can plan her own birthday party for LO. With out being to blunt because that will go like a fart in church.
I know she's going to use the excuse of other family members live to far to go, so I must have one at my house for them.
I suffer from bad anxiety and just thinking about it makes my anxiety level go through the roof. So much so I'm debating whether to even have a party at all. I'm sure SO's mom will bring it up soon enough.
How has everyone else handled first birthdays with boundry stomping in-laws problems?? HELP!
I lmao when I read the comments telling her to leave us alone haha!!
Anyway last time I posted on here she ran and told SO about my post. He actually told her it was something he and I had already discussed. This put her in a TO from LO and me. Unfortunately SO has a bad case of the glitery rainbow pooping unicorns and does not want to be part of the TO.
Here is my issue, LO's birthday is right around the corner. SO and I have not discussed it yet but I know he's going to want to take LO to his mom's house for the birthday party. They are all super enmeshed and ALWAYS celebrate everyone's birthday there. We live in a super tiny apartment and won't be able to have a party in it. Also we are on a very tight budget and can't really rent out a venue.
I want to plan a party myself and have full control of planning it. I know if I ask SO for help he'll only call his mom or say, “Let's just have it at my moms house and she'll take care of everything. ".
I guess what I want advice on is, a) good budget party ideas of where I can have the party that won't be too expensive (I've honestly never been to a one year old's birthday party lol), b) how can I let SO know that I don't want his mom to expect she can plan her own birthday party for LO. With out being to blunt because that will go like a fart in church.
I know she's going to use the excuse of other family members live to far to go, so I must have one at my house for them.
I suffer from bad anxiety and just thinking about it makes my anxiety level go through the roof. So much so I'm debating whether to even have a party at all. I'm sure SO's mom will bring it up soon enough.
How has everyone else handled first birthdays with boundry stomping in-laws problems?? HELP!