I cut off my mom in May\2014 here's a short bg of why:
-Verbally abusive since my parents got divorced when I was 5-6. Examples: Your worthless, disgusting, stupid, fat and you don't need school your never gonna be worth a damn etc.
-I was forced to become her constant caregiver\maid from the age of 9-10. She never got off her ass for anything she sat in front of the computer or laid in bed while she left me in charge of her dogs (not allowed outside that's animal abuse.), walking to go get fast food for all meals (when she had $50 left she would drive to get HERSELF dollar burgers while I had nothing), suppose to clean up all the filth that collected during the school day, etc.
-There were times when I was forced to sleep on a piece of foam because she needed 2 mattress's on her bed.
-She used my grandfather for money as often as possible and forced me to lie/beg for money starting around age 12. If I refused she would tell me she shouldn't have to kiss my ass I should do it because its respectful.
-She alienated me from my family,refused to let me around them and told me my father raped her. Which is a lie she admitted it but as soon as the words left her mouth she was like I didn't say that. Her go to when people confront her.
She has to be the victim constantly.
-When I got married she continuously told me he was cheating,he was going to,I'm to fat and disgusting for anyone to be faithful to etc. Anything to cause problems.
My father tells me to put my big girl panties on and talk to her.
My grandfather is all She's family talk to her.
She's constantly giving them messages to give me or why won't she talk to me?
I'm currently 22+5 weeks pregnant with my first. I never want contact with her again unless she seeks help and even then I don't want her near my family.
How do I explain to my dad and grandfather that she is not to get any news about me or why I don't want contact with her?
Should I write a letter to tell her why I don't want her around? She found out I was pregnant from my grandfathers facebook and has gone nuts with guilt notes delivered by my father to both my husband and I.
Not replying just fuels her forcing more notes and messages.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
-Verbally abusive since my parents got divorced when I was 5-6. Examples: Your worthless, disgusting, stupid, fat and you don't need school your never gonna be worth a damn etc.
-I was forced to become her constant caregiver\maid from the age of 9-10. She never got off her ass for anything she sat in front of the computer or laid in bed while she left me in charge of her dogs (not allowed outside that's animal abuse.), walking to go get fast food for all meals (when she had $50 left she would drive to get HERSELF dollar burgers while I had nothing), suppose to clean up all the filth that collected during the school day, etc.
-There were times when I was forced to sleep on a piece of foam because she needed 2 mattress's on her bed.
-She used my grandfather for money as often as possible and forced me to lie/beg for money starting around age 12. If I refused she would tell me she shouldn't have to kiss my ass I should do it because its respectful.
-She alienated me from my family,refused to let me around them and told me my father raped her. Which is a lie she admitted it but as soon as the words left her mouth she was like I didn't say that. Her go to when people confront her.
She has to be the victim constantly.
-When I got married she continuously told me he was cheating,he was going to,I'm to fat and disgusting for anyone to be faithful to etc. Anything to cause problems.
My father tells me to put my big girl panties on and talk to her.
My grandfather is all She's family talk to her.
She's constantly giving them messages to give me or why won't she talk to me?
I'm currently 22+5 weeks pregnant with my first. I never want contact with her again unless she seeks help and even then I don't want her near my family.
How do I explain to my dad and grandfather that she is not to get any news about me or why I don't want contact with her?
Should I write a letter to tell her why I don't want her around? She found out I was pregnant from my grandfathers facebook and has gone nuts with guilt notes delivered by my father to both my husband and I.
Not replying just fuels her forcing more notes and messages.
Thanks in advance for any advice.