BG: SIL and DH are pretty close, we had babies about 4 months apart so I thought it would be a chance to bring us closer.....it wasn't. MIL gave SIL several big gifts that she was supposed to pass down to us when her baby grew out of them....she didn't. Then when she got pregnant again a couple months later MIL'S was hitting me up for hand me downs because "SIL needed our help." Her SO is in jail, and I personally think she's really stupid for getting pregnant again because they couldn't even afford the first one, and he's abusive. But I mmob and didn't say anything about it. On top of it I feel like MIL is constantly comparing our babies. Like when I say "LO started doing this." She responds appropriately but then goes on to tell me what SIL's DD is doing now. It's annoying.
FF to today: DH is at work and was supposed to stop by and drop off some money so I could get drinks for the house, and buy some clothes for LO from this lady across the street, and then he was going to hang out with some friends. He just called me and said "change of plans, SIL's DD fell and gashed her head, so I had to leave work early to go take her and SIL to the hospital." I'm really pissed. I'm not sure whether it's because she's BEC, or because I have an actual reason to be. On one hand, I don't have to buy the clothes and such today, and we didn't really have anything else planned; but on the other hand we really don't have the money for him to leave work early, and waste gas on going 20 mins. to get her, 45 to a hospital, 45 back, and then an hr. Back home. I feel guilty for being mad because her kid got hurt, but I'm tired of doing things for someone who does nothing to help us back.
Am I being a total bitch because she's BEC? Or is this totally valid?
FF to today: DH is at work and was supposed to stop by and drop off some money so I could get drinks for the house, and buy some clothes for LO from this lady across the street, and then he was going to hang out with some friends. He just called me and said "change of plans, SIL's DD fell and gashed her head, so I had to leave work early to go take her and SIL to the hospital." I'm really pissed. I'm not sure whether it's because she's BEC, or because I have an actual reason to be. On one hand, I don't have to buy the clothes and such today, and we didn't really have anything else planned; but on the other hand we really don't have the money for him to leave work early, and waste gas on going 20 mins. to get her, 45 to a hospital, 45 back, and then an hr. Back home. I feel guilty for being mad because her kid got hurt, but I'm tired of doing things for someone who does nothing to help us back.
Am I being a total bitch because she's BEC? Or is this totally valid?