I don't have BG on here but I'll try to keep it short and sweet. SGma married my Gpa when I was 6ish, myself and everyone else in the family has always called her by her first name (other cousins & our parents.) She is a thoughtful person but extremely sensitive and does not handle the bruntness of my Dad's family very well. Everyone tones it down a bit for her but its kinda become a thing we just expect her to get her panties in a bunch over something someone does at a get together. She is also the overly helpful sorts, like does things a host should do at parties and such.
Current issues:
In May my bff got married and I was in the wedding. My Dad and Gparents were invited, Gpa couldn't attend due to health issues. So SGma was going to go with my Dad, DH, and our girls (1&2.) Since I was in the wedding party I only had time to help my DH change diapers after the ceremony before I had to go do pics. Upon opening the hatch on our suv I found 2 grocery bags with bathroom l products in it (shaving cream, body wash, shampoo, the works) I asked DH and he said SGma gave it to us but I didn't have time to get the why.
Ff to the reception, we get announced, foodis being served, and I finally have a moment to step away to see my girls. I go over to the table and I'm holding my ODD and talking to both her and YDD. SGma comes over from her table and is trying to shove her camera in my face, I say now is not the time and she stomps off saying fine.Whatever I pay no attention to her acting this way.
Ff to 2 weeks ago and we have my DDs' bday party (same bday.) We had it at my Dad's very laid back type of deal. She and Gpa made my girls a scrapbook (I'm ok with this.) My ODD opened it and was very excited for a 2yo and we flipped through the pages with them, thanked them more than once the whole 9.
Just get off the phone with my Dad to find out that she's been hinting/complaining about how I haven't sent hand written thank yous for both of these things. I don't know if thank yous are proper after a kids bday but its something we have never done in my family before. And as for the other crap, it was more of a pain for me than anything as it had to be thrown out because we can't have scented things in our house that we don't already own (super sensitive skin kids who get hives with new scents.) And she knows that, my Gpa is thesame way. I don't feel like I should send her one at this point, and I'm really pissed she went and bitched to my Dad about it (which means she definitely complained to my Aunt too.) I'm going to see her on Sat at my cousins grad party, how do I handle this crap? For years I've just ignored her like everyone else, but now that I have kids and have been reading here I can't just ignore it anymore. I need some help on how to deal with her because while my Aunt doesn't really put up with her shit nobody ever really calls her out on it and makes her stop either.
Current issues:
In May my bff got married and I was in the wedding. My Dad and Gparents were invited, Gpa couldn't attend due to health issues. So SGma was going to go with my Dad, DH, and our girls (1&2.) Since I was in the wedding party I only had time to help my DH change diapers after the ceremony before I had to go do pics. Upon opening the hatch on our suv I found 2 grocery bags with bathroom l products in it (shaving cream, body wash, shampoo, the works) I asked DH and he said SGma gave it to us but I didn't have time to get the why.
Ff to the reception, we get announced, foodis being served, and I finally have a moment to step away to see my girls. I go over to the table and I'm holding my ODD and talking to both her and YDD. SGma comes over from her table and is trying to shove her camera in my face, I say now is not the time and she stomps off saying fine.Whatever I pay no attention to her acting this way.
Ff to 2 weeks ago and we have my DDs' bday party (same bday.) We had it at my Dad's very laid back type of deal. She and Gpa made my girls a scrapbook (I'm ok with this.) My ODD opened it and was very excited for a 2yo and we flipped through the pages with them, thanked them more than once the whole 9.
Just get off the phone with my Dad to find out that she's been hinting/complaining about how I haven't sent hand written thank yous for both of these things. I don't know if thank yous are proper after a kids bday but its something we have never done in my family before. And as for the other crap, it was more of a pain for me than anything as it had to be thrown out because we can't have scented things in our house that we don't already own (super sensitive skin kids who get hives with new scents.) And she knows that, my Gpa is thesame way. I don't feel like I should send her one at this point, and I'm really pissed she went and bitched to my Dad about it (which means she definitely complained to my Aunt too.) I'm going to see her on Sat at my cousins grad party, how do I handle this crap? For years I've just ignored her like everyone else, but now that I have kids and have been reading here I can't just ignore it anymore. I need some help on how to deal with her because while my Aunt doesn't really put up with her shit nobody ever really calls her out on it and makes her stop either.