And, I thank all of you for that! :D
Dd will be 8 months old this week and she's caused quite the drama already! Before she was born, I had issues with my own family about the "new" baby. She was the first baby in 10 years so the rabies were strong with this one.
Since two months before she was born my spine started transforming into steel. I learned from reading and posting on here and have used it all wisely.
This past month, dh has had some pretty serious health issues involving breathing and his heart.(There was another post regarding him and his CO mom, but doesn't really pertain to my family at all.) He's been off of work for a month and will continue to be off till doctors ok him to go back. He's endured hospital stays and endless testing, very frustrating! So, our money is tight, but we've budgeted for things and are prepared as best we can be.
Here's where the issue is: Mom and gram think we're dirt poor. We might not be eating out or buying new things, but we're doing fairly well considering everything going on.
My mom and gram have offered countless times to watch dd and ds so we don't have to pay someone, but I've always said I've got it covered. Dh and I would rather pay someone to watch the kids than guess if mom and gram followed our rules. They have gotten mad, threatened no presents (my mom buys the grandkids' love), and basically ignore me if I call to chit chat.
While chatting with my gram a couple of times prior to this issue, she's often stated that when my sisters would leave their babies with her that she'd immediately shove a bottle in the baby's mouth whether she/he were hungry or not. I am NOT ok with this. Dd has silent reflux and has often choked in her sleep and turned blue or will continually vomit if over fed. I've told gram she is not to over feed dd and then I get the "Baby is hungry! Do mommy and daddy starve you?" directed to dd. Irritating to say the least.
Can any of you offer counter statements or one liners to help them get the point that the will NOT be keeping dd while dh is going through medical appointments or hospital stays?
For the record, I have a paid sitter to keep both ds and dd who follows my directions and asks questions for clarification for anything. She's great!