My little sister M (18 this past sept) lived with us for three years. She moved out this past July to finish school early where my mom lives. (District requires less credits. It also had a LOT to do with a boy she met while visiting my mom. He's 22 yrs old, and not that stand-up. Ie: sent flirty messages to my 15 year old sis and when M found out he didn't apologize, said something along the lines of how 'if you can't play the game, get out of it.' She of course, rug swept and continued to date him because they 'weren't technically together at the time.')
I feel it's important to mention that it was very rough having her live with us. She has severe self worth issues, among other things, but she refused to see a therapist.
Long story shorter-
Part of her finishing early required her to take a test or something, at a collage 4 hrs away from my moms, but close to us. She asked if she could stay thurs, fri and sat night with us.... And can her bf please stay too. I said yes. (olive branch, if you will. She knows how I feel about her bf) I set up the spare room for him and set up a place for her to sleep in my daughters room.
I don't know what time they got in last night (fri). My dd woke around 5 this morning to go potty and when I went to help her I realized that M isn't sleeping in her bed. The only other place she could be is with her bf.
I made it clear that I'm not ok with them sleeping together in my house and I feel incredibly disrespected. Im not here to debate the morality of it- it has nothing to do with that. It has everything to do with her age, how long they've been dating, how I feel about him, my house my rules, that kinda thing.
How do I address this with her?
I feel it's important to mention that it was very rough having her live with us. She has severe self worth issues, among other things, but she refused to see a therapist.
Long story shorter-
Part of her finishing early required her to take a test or something, at a collage 4 hrs away from my moms, but close to us. She asked if she could stay thurs, fri and sat night with us.... And can her bf please stay too. I said yes. (olive branch, if you will. She knows how I feel about her bf) I set up the spare room for him and set up a place for her to sleep in my daughters room.
I don't know what time they got in last night (fri). My dd woke around 5 this morning to go potty and when I went to help her I realized that M isn't sleeping in her bed. The only other place she could be is with her bf.
I made it clear that I'm not ok with them sleeping together in my house and I feel incredibly disrespected. Im not here to debate the morality of it- it has nothing to do with that. It has everything to do with her age, how long they've been dating, how I feel about him, my house my rules, that kinda thing.
How do I address this with her?