I have lurked for a long time but after this happened I just had to post. I made a fake profile because SO knows I go on this site. This is long, sorry.
So some background, SO and I have a 21 month old son. We first got together about 3 years ago. I live in a city on the east coast and he is from a small town in the Midwest. He worked very hard to graduate college and has been very successful in his field of work. I met him after he had landed a great job in my city. We started dating and the relationship moved quickly and about 6 months in we diacovered we were pregnant. After an initial freak out from both of us he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I was so happy and began planning our wedding. We planned a New Year's Eve wedding, booked all the vendors, bought a dress, etc. I have relatives overseas who flew in for the big day and his family came too. Two days before the wedding he broke down and told me he couldn't go through with it and he'd always regret it. Oh and by the way he was being transferred to an office on the west coast in the new year. I told him to go to hell. Moved back in with my parents and spent the last 3 months of my pregnancy crying in bed.
I never really got it together after my son was born. I lived with my parents and worked as a part time receptionist at my dads place of work because I couldn't handle anything more. SO would come visit every few months and I'd bring him the baby. We gradually started talking more and more. This fall we decided to try and make a relationship work again. He is currently working on a project in my city, so I got an apt and he stays there when he is in town. We are in therapy regularly to work on communication and I'm not moving out west with him until we are solid. The plan was that we would "date" for a full year before doing anything to move our relationship forward but small complication: I found out last week I'm pregnant.
This year we decided to take DS to visit ILs after Christmas for a few days. I don't know them very well but I don't think they have ever liked me. Anyway we got here yesterday. We're staying in a hotel since I refuse to sleep on a pull out couch in ILs basement which makes me a spoiled princess. We didn't go over to them last night after getting in since it was bedtime and DS needed to go to sleep, strike two I guess. We spent today with them exchanging presents which was full of p/a jabs and snotty remarks as well but the reason I'm here is because of the little party mil had.
She said she invited all SO's high school friends but only like 2-3 people were his actual friends. The rest were girls he had either dated or hooked up with somehow. Some fake spray tanned chick cornered me and introduced herself as the girl who gave SO his first blow job!!!!!! Who does that?????!!!! They all knew each other from high school and were hanging out while SO talked with his buddies and MIL had my son in the kitchen so I spent most of the night awkwardly sitting there while these women talked about dating SO as a teenager! This girl he briefly dated as a junior who actually seemed normal actually told me that mil had sought her out, she hadn't spoken to her in years but mil came by her parents and said "oh we're having a party for SO, you neeeeed to come, it's too bad you guys didn't work out, wink wink."
So when I heard this I went to find him and said we had to go but he was all no, my mom wouldn't do that, she must have misunderstood, Etc. Meanwhile most of these girls are blatantly flirting with him! Touching him, etc. I pointed that out to him and he just said "screw them all, you're the only one for me" and gave me a deep kiss. But we weren't allowed to leave because MIL's feelings would be hurt. She had basically locked herself in a bedroom playing with my son the whole time and kept telling me to go meet people. Anyway it was awful and I was in tears on the way back to the hotel. I'm hiding in the bathroom now. I'm not crazy right? She totally invited all those women he hasn't spoken to in years so he would want to dump me and get together with one of them? How can I make him see this??