BG- We have been married for almost a year and have a 7mo baby. I have two older children from a previous relationship. We just bought a house this past March. We have been together for 3 years.
Today was the older boys first day at a new school, youngest is just starting kindergarten (yikes). Yesterday, DuH was here all day but was just mentally and emotionally checked out, he did not participate in ANYTHING regarding getting the kids ready, backpacks, pep talks etc. He didn't even muster a "I hope you have a good day tomorrow!" Nothing.
So today, boys go to school NBD. This morning I address the issue with DuH and he just argues saying he is justified and that he wants to do what he wants to do and "feels like life is not worth living and gets depressed" if he is not doing what HE wants to do. Such as, working in the garage on his toys (quad, tractor, whatever). One of his arguments is that he works and I stay home, so he pays the bills and he figures "the kids are my department".
He is at work now and he texts me this
"Hey, you should write on your baby board and tell them how I pay to keep a roof over you and your kids heads and the tell them how I also love doing my own thing 24/7. Then see their responses. You should see how many say leave VS stay".
^^^ So I am, figured there is NO better place to get honest opinions then from my DWIL :)
There is sooooooooooo much more, I will answer any questions as I can.