Hi,
This is a new account I created so I could make this post, so I'm not new here and I know you guys tell it like it is.
The thing is that my xh is not well. I only just found this out, it seems he has developed some serious mental problems since we divorced about 6 years ago.
This all started last spring, he started to send me messages on chat, I still had him on there since we were together but we never actually chatted to eachother, not since the divorce. I answered him, asked how he and his family was doing and told him I'd had a baby, basically just polite small talk. After that he starts constantly sending me messages over the chat, I start to suspect something is off so I stop anserwing him and hope that he'll just stop and get the message.
After that he starts sending me emails, mails me a letter in the post and sends me sms's. I anserwed one of his first emails where he is actually going on about me and his friend having a relationship (not true, haven't spoken to this friend of his in many years) I tell him I'm in a happy relationship with a man whom he doesn't know and that the acusations about his friend sound crazy. I also told him to see a therapist about this.
Another reason why the accusations about his friend sounds so crazy is that I now live in another country, so yeah not even remotely probable.
After that the crazy ramps up, I ignor, and resend all packages he sends me. He starts phoning my mom, he tells her he's worried about me if everything is ok and she says it is and she is kinda weirded out about it.
So all is quite for a while, until this week. I get a phone call from stranges about two towns over, they say they have been getting mail from someone from (his country) and I'm mentioned in it. They say they don't really understand it. I am completely taken by surprise, later that evening I find out my Uncle got a package from a 'Secret man' that included a chocolate egg and a letter with my name on it. The letter was written in my language but it was complete nonsense (random words strung together with no meaning). By this time I can pretty much figure out its from my XH. Then on tuesday, I find out he's here in my country. I was shocked.
He ran into my Aunt right in front of where she works by 'accident'. My aunt then calls my mom and he talks to her and wants to meet her. She agrees because she wants to know whats going on. At lunch he tells my mom that hes here to save me, that I sent him a secret code word that I was in danger. My mom tells him I'm fine, not to contact me and go home. He never did contact me (he believes his friend is intercepting all his communication attempts with me, thats why hes contacting my family members). My mom ended up calling his dad to tell him he was here. The thing is his dad paid for his ticket here and gave him money to come. They know he is not well, but obviously they have no idea how crazy he's acted towards me if they helped him get here. He changed his ticket and went back home yesterday.
Ok so my question is this, should I try to contact his family and tell them everything thats been going on, offer to send them copies of his letters so they can see how crazy he's been acting? Or just leave it alone? I feel really bad because he's obviously not well and he needs the right help and to do that his family needs to know about all the crazy things he's been doing.
I'm just so sad by all this, I need to get some outside perspective so please tell me what you guys think.