After reading some of the stories here I am so glad (and sad for ya'll with similar problems) that I don't stand alone with the monster-in-law. So i wanted to share my story/ frustrations with my loving husband's monster family.
So mine starts long ago...about 4 years. (I will try and keep this short).
I started dating my now husband (of almost 3 years) and noticed how maupulative and controlling his mom was. I wanted to keep the peace and for us to work so I looked around it and was friends with her. Well in 2010 my husband and I got married! It was the best day ever.
So about 4 months into marriage I got pregnant. And against my pleading we moved into his mom's old house and rented to to help her out with money and give us a place. Well this was a terrible idea from the start with us a new married couple and now with a new family starting....and his mom being obessed with her son/my husband and calling and making him do things for her and using her 'aches and pains' to get him to do her 'farm work'. The deal was we rent this house...ASSIST with her farm and we get 2 acres deeded to us so when we were approved for a loan we build. Well things quickly went south...since i hated her anyway.
She would come into MY HOUSE without calling or asking because its really 'her house' and she had keys. Well this sparked a hate bomb in me but I over looked it when my hubby kind of talked to her, but that didn't stop her. Then one day they are doing work and stuff IN MY YARD...DRIVING THROUGH MY YARD, TEARING UP MY YARD! Well I call my husband asking wtf was going on? Well his mom comes in and lays down on my couch...no knock, no warning just does. Well he talks to her she makes this pity me and blah blah stuff about their actions. He starts talking to me so say "if you have a issue with it talk to them," I walk by her saying that and she says "What's he b**ching about?" I ignore her and walk outside to talk privately. SHE FOLLOWS ME AND says "I am talking to you," I continue to ignore her. "Oh yeah real mature ignoreing me when I'm talking to you," I hit a wall. I turn around and told her to more or less....f**k off. Then as I'm on the phone with my husband we are in a screaming brawl! Her saying that he made a mistake marrying me and she shouldn't have 'Allowed' him to marry me and I was useless blah blah...some where I told her the reason none of her kids are around is because he was the devils b**ch and hated her and on and on. And she said 'I didn't ask you to move here,' and I'm like 'We are moving out'
My husband says he will be home soon. So I hang up and call my dad and say "are you going to church Sunday?" she laughs and calls me something as I walk inside and LOCK BOTH OF MY FRONT DOORS. I tell him we are moving out so get the fleet of trucks. I go to the bathroom and tell him what's going on. And as I say "ok love you" She is in the doorway, yanks MY phone out of my hand and says "Who are you b**ching to now!?" I tell her to give my phone back and she gets into my face "who you b**ching to?"
At this point I am on the brink of seeing red, also I'm 6 months pregnant, so i say very coolly "You have no idea who you're dealing with," she gets closer into my face and yells "I have no idea? Please you have no idea" and pushes me. I say it again. She pushes me again and tries to PUNCH ME in the face....I snapped.II yanked my phone from her then I pushed her as hard as I could, which launched her into the wall about 7 feet back...she stumbled and fell through the adjacent door. I storm to my room lock my door and soon my husband is home. Asks me what happened and i told him and he said "I don't know who to believe because I wasn't here," I was floored.
He leaves goes and talks to her (after 2 years he tells me what was said) he told her 'What the hell were you thinking?!" She tried to devirt it by saying "look at the brusies she left on me," she had two on her shoulders were I pushed and one on her hip and elbow when she fell. But he wasn't buying it he said 'You deserve worse then that. If you had done that to me..." then her husband tries to speak up (he pointed at her and her husband) "if you can not accept her and respect her...you are no longer a part of this family. And you (her husband) don't have a say. You both are not allowed over until she is over it. You have crossed so many lines." to this she is trying to say she didn't know what she was doing and that I got pregnant on purpose and he said "I didn't use the condom she wanted it i didnt...so dont f**king lie to me! AND you unlocked both front doors you knew...(he goes to his rig and says) We are done"
I'm in the bath pissed. He comes in and she calls right as he gets into the bathroom and she tries to apologize to him and they part saying "I love you" which PISSED ME OFF...he just told the women who tried to punch and push his pregnant wife that he loved her. To me and my pregnant hormones he was letting her get away with it. I tried to talk to him about it and he told me to 'get over it' well this hadn't been the first time his mom and I have clashed and I was done with him taking her over me...his wife, who was carrying his child. I told him I was done with him and his mom that I didn't need him or her in my life if this was how it was gonna be. I said it's her or me.
He moved 20 miles away and bought me the house I liked and we cut her off almost entirely. But she would constantly call asking how the baby was progressing (to me after she tried jazz she was no longer a grandmother and if she had made me miscarry because of that....anyway) and my husband would dodge it telling her she could call me if she wanted to know and...would constantly PESTER him on going to the appointments and being in the room when she was born. Needless to say she didn't go to any to them and was NOT IN THE ROOM (just me and my husband). After my daughter was born I was on the war path, she would NOT see my baby and would not be involved in her life. And she wasn't only a handful of times did she get to see her but I wouldn't let her hold her. I was over her shit.
Well she would constantly call and complain how she never gets to see her and my husband kept saying "you know how to fix it," and she would call my sister (my sister and I married brothers so she too faces this monster) and would ask about my daughter and what we were doing. And idk if she thinks my sister and I don't talk but she called me afterward to let me know what she had asked or said. And she would try and quilt my sister into sending her photos of my daughter to her and my sisters like "No, that's not my stuff to share, if you want it so bad ask her. And one time I was using my husbands phone and she texted him saying "Send me a pic of MY granddaughter since I never get one." That pissed me off....do not demand a photo ask and for one she isn't just YOUR granddaughter and I texted back and said "sorry don't have one," and she's like "take one," and again she demanded so i said "not in the mood to maybe tomorrow," then she called and I answered and said "Can I help you?" she studdered "Is my son there?" and I'm like "nope," and hung up.
She would often ask my sister what size I was in so she could beat in jean size and told her that she was jealous that me and her son were doing things together and that she was jealous of our relationship. And she would ask her what new stuff we got and try and find the same thing and one up it. And my sister just stopped telling her stuff and told her she might need to talk to us about her weird attachment to her son.
Well months had passed and My husband would force me to visit her which made me hate her more. Telling me 'i moved and did all this for you, get over it" and I'm like f**k you. He and I had a huge fight almost to a splitting point and we sat down and rooted to the problems of us and mine was that he never listens to me and still took his mom over me (Which he still did, he'd call and ask her questions that was based on OUR decisions). So after that he let me vent all my anger toward his mom. And I was starting to move on...I prayed a lot on it.
Well it was Easter this year and as the kids were hunting eggs she was IN MY HOUSE taking pictures of MY PICTURES and I come in and tell her "if you want copies ask, do not come in here trying to be sneaky and taking photos" (she is in front of a picture of her grandma and my daughter) and she says "this is MY GRANDMA I CAN IF I WANT!" I exploded "I said to stop so stop," AND SHE TOOK PHOTOS ANYWAY and this happened in front of 4 different people, my husbands 2 brothers and sister and my sister. Well she about mouthed off again and my husband walked in. I told him what happened and he pulled her aside as I hid eggs for the adults and told her 'this is her house, not yours. YOU DO NOT back talk and undermind what she says. If she doesn't want you in here taking pictures of her pictures..DO NOT ARGUE.." she interuptted saying "I didn't realize it was a big deal," and he said "no stop it...she told you twice and you continued to take pictures..." you guys kind of made head way now you have yet again f**ked it up again. This has always been you. You fix it.
Well now I am pregnant with Baby number two and she called him asking "so am i going to get to be a part to this babies appointments? I didn't get to with my other one," and he told her "ask her, that's up to her," and she almost yells over the phone "THIS IS YOUR BABY TOO DON'T YOU GET A SAY?" and he was like "umm...its her body, and if it was my choice you still wouldn't be there. You know how to fix this situation and you haven't so I don't feel sorry for you," She calls my sister and asking her "how big is the baby? whens the due date?" and my sister is like "I don't know call her," well she dodges me and when my husband asked her why she hadn't tried she said I was hard to approch. Whatever...anyway. This is year 2 of my daughters life and she has seen her all together maybe a week. I told her she had no idea who she was dealing with....haha
Now his sister....She is just like her mom, b**chy, materialistic, manipulative and thinks she is better then EVERYONE. Well we don't really get along (we tolerate each other) and she had been totally b**tchy toward us and ignoring us and not inviting us to stuff (which i dont' care when she did i made up excuses not to go) and I was texting her mass messages of the new baby and she wouldn't respond so when my husband asked her what was up she said "i'm afraid i can't have babies and when I do all your guys babies will be grown," and i'm like yeah right....and we have a lot of family gathering well, when we would go to the few of hers she would try and one up what we had done and go out of her way to try and impress my dad....and I'm like what the f?
Anyway....I hate them....and I have worked on prayers for it and got group prayers to help me with the hate for them...I wanted to vent. Thanks yall