I posted this on the M&R board and had my ass handed to me. But whatever.
DH has expressed interest in joining the Army and he is of course trying to convince me of it.
I have a lot of concerns about this. For one, we own our house. I know a lot of people who join the military usually rent their houses out when they leave. While that's an option, it's not like there are a lot of people looking to come to this area. I live in the middle of nowhere, kind of. People are looking to move out of this area, evidenced by lots of houses up for sale and them staying on the market for years. So if we didn't get a renter, we'd have to continue paying the mortgage as well as our living expenses.
Second, I'm finishing Nursing school now. Supposed to take the NCLEX in Jan or Feb. Yes it's true that I can take the exam anywhere but I can't apply for jobs if I don't know where we'll end up. So that's going to delay the process of me getting hired.
He said if all things stayed the same with our finances (as far as bills) but the house didn't get rented, we'd be living on $6000 less than what he currently makes. So basically as long as we rented the house for $500/mo we'd break even. And then once I get a job we'd be in the black.
But also, my student loans are going to come due (I know you can easily defer them at least once but still), as are his. He would like to go to Basic in Jan or so, so it would also mean pulling ODS out of his current school and enrolling him elsewhere (he suggested me going to my mom's while he's at Basic and Advanced training).
I'm just numb. I don't like agreeing to something blindly when the numbers don't add up. While this isn't the area where I grew up, I've been here for almost 8 years now. I have friends. I have a life.
I'm not against the military but I have heard anecdotal reports of people saying that it wasn't what they thought it would be and wanting out. This also disturbs me.
I mean, DH isn't 20 anymore, free of responsibilities and able to scratch things off the bucket list. He's got a wife and kids now, and I feel like he's not prioritizing us at all.
Also I feel pressured. I don't like feeling pressured.
I don't know how the military will affect our relationship either. And our relationship isn't the finest. Part of why I'm on this board! Lol
So, what would you do? Just looking for open, civil discussion.
Edited to fix grammar
DH has expressed interest in joining the Army and he is of course trying to convince me of it.
I have a lot of concerns about this. For one, we own our house. I know a lot of people who join the military usually rent their houses out when they leave. While that's an option, it's not like there are a lot of people looking to come to this area. I live in the middle of nowhere, kind of. People are looking to move out of this area, evidenced by lots of houses up for sale and them staying on the market for years. So if we didn't get a renter, we'd have to continue paying the mortgage as well as our living expenses.
Second, I'm finishing Nursing school now. Supposed to take the NCLEX in Jan or Feb. Yes it's true that I can take the exam anywhere but I can't apply for jobs if I don't know where we'll end up. So that's going to delay the process of me getting hired.
He said if all things stayed the same with our finances (as far as bills) but the house didn't get rented, we'd be living on $6000 less than what he currently makes. So basically as long as we rented the house for $500/mo we'd break even. And then once I get a job we'd be in the black.
But also, my student loans are going to come due (I know you can easily defer them at least once but still), as are his. He would like to go to Basic in Jan or so, so it would also mean pulling ODS out of his current school and enrolling him elsewhere (he suggested me going to my mom's while he's at Basic and Advanced training).
I'm just numb. I don't like agreeing to something blindly when the numbers don't add up. While this isn't the area where I grew up, I've been here for almost 8 years now. I have friends. I have a life.
I'm not against the military but I have heard anecdotal reports of people saying that it wasn't what they thought it would be and wanting out. This also disturbs me.
I mean, DH isn't 20 anymore, free of responsibilities and able to scratch things off the bucket list. He's got a wife and kids now, and I feel like he's not prioritizing us at all.
Also I feel pressured. I don't like feeling pressured.
I don't know how the military will affect our relationship either. And our relationship isn't the finest. Part of why I'm on this board! Lol
So, what would you do? Just looking for open, civil discussion.
Edited to fix grammar