Since my last post..doing what people advised wasn’t enough. My mom has turned into this woman I don’t know at all. She had said some hurtful things that I could have forgotten, but the last one made me realize she’s never really cared about me at all!!
After throwing a fit because her stuff was no longer in our home, she made sure to tell me I was a horrible daughter and tried to make me feel guilty by using my dad. For his birthday (which was 1 day after our twin boys first birthday) and she and sis wanted to throw a combined party for twins, dad and sil. We didn’t want them go out of their way, but since they did. I helped with a few dishes and bought a cake for everyone to blow out (cost me $100 for just the cake alone). We gifted my dad $60 as his gift as we pulled that out of the ATM (he doesn’t care for material things). We’re down to a single income family and that means we’re being more careful with our spending.
She threw the whole party in my face now..suggesting that people were gifting our twins with hundreds of dollars because of the party they threw and we couldn’t afford to give my dad at least $100…that he deserves thousands for raising me..blah blah. Then of course she reminded me about not having helped them even though she and my dad tiredly raised me. Again, I cried and felt stab after stab in the heart. I love my dad and if I could, the world was his..he is the most humble man and he tried to stand up to my mom on my behalf..so he too get shut down.
Through his whole ordeal, I realized I was nothing more than a bank to my mom. Now that I’m not able to hand her the money and can’t be at her beckon call, I’m the ungrateful daughter. I got married 2 years ago..and prior to being married..I purchased 3 cars total..each one I paid off and passed down to my siblings as directed by her. I was the oldest and was expected of me to help them take care of my siblings. Then of course I would give them money that came my way to help subsidized my dad’s minimum wage. I helped put a down payment on my dad’s truck and every big purchase, I made because I was the only one with a decent paying job. So I helped as much as I could financially..and now she claims the house I bought is hers and she should have kicked us out..since I bought it when I was single..meant it rightfully belonged to her!
She only left to live with my sister because she loved my twins and me!!!?!? She also thought I couldn’t possibly know how to be as good a mother as her because I had a c-section and didn’t suffer through natural birth!!! So my emergency c-section because of pre-e meant that I never knew the pain having children! Sigh..so now my mom is cut off…and as much as I love my dad and it breaks my heart to not see him regularly..he comes with my mom as baggage and it’s hard for me to even be in front of him.
Sorry this is long..I just wanted to update you on all this fun I’m having.
After throwing a fit because her stuff was no longer in our home, she made sure to tell me I was a horrible daughter and tried to make me feel guilty by using my dad. For his birthday (which was 1 day after our twin boys first birthday) and she and sis wanted to throw a combined party for twins, dad and sil. We didn’t want them go out of their way, but since they did. I helped with a few dishes and bought a cake for everyone to blow out (cost me $100 for just the cake alone). We gifted my dad $60 as his gift as we pulled that out of the ATM (he doesn’t care for material things). We’re down to a single income family and that means we’re being more careful with our spending.
She threw the whole party in my face now..suggesting that people were gifting our twins with hundreds of dollars because of the party they threw and we couldn’t afford to give my dad at least $100…that he deserves thousands for raising me..blah blah. Then of course she reminded me about not having helped them even though she and my dad tiredly raised me. Again, I cried and felt stab after stab in the heart. I love my dad and if I could, the world was his..he is the most humble man and he tried to stand up to my mom on my behalf..so he too get shut down.
Through his whole ordeal, I realized I was nothing more than a bank to my mom. Now that I’m not able to hand her the money and can’t be at her beckon call, I’m the ungrateful daughter. I got married 2 years ago..and prior to being married..I purchased 3 cars total..each one I paid off and passed down to my siblings as directed by her. I was the oldest and was expected of me to help them take care of my siblings. Then of course I would give them money that came my way to help subsidized my dad’s minimum wage. I helped put a down payment on my dad’s truck and every big purchase, I made because I was the only one with a decent paying job. So I helped as much as I could financially..and now she claims the house I bought is hers and she should have kicked us out..since I bought it when I was single..meant it rightfully belonged to her!
She only left to live with my sister because she loved my twins and me!!!?!? She also thought I couldn’t possibly know how to be as good a mother as her because I had a c-section and didn’t suffer through natural birth!!! So my emergency c-section because of pre-e meant that I never knew the pain having children! Sigh..so now my mom is cut off…and as much as I love my dad and it breaks my heart to not see him regularly..he comes with my mom as baggage and it’s hard for me to even be in front of him.
Sorry this is long..I just wanted to update you on all this fun I’m having.