New to this board and needing advice.
Some background, but I will try to be really brief.. Relationship with MIL has been shaky for.. well, the entirity of her being MIL. I used to be really polite, put up with her crazy, pretend she didn't talk shit to DH about me, etc. She always acted totally fine with everything, and then would randomly explode and bring up random things over the past several months to years that she was apparently really hurt about. We'd apologize, it would start again. Eventually she stopped inviting us to the weekly family dinner and other family things. I still remained polite until we coincidentally stopped by when EVERYONE was together and MIL didn't even offer we stay as well. Etc etc etc, six months ago we had minor spat with her that ended with DH and I agreeing to fix all the petty things that she was so offended by, and then she stopped calling or anything............because we agreed to do what she had asked.......... or something. So a week later we had a miscarriage and told MIL and FIL about it... FIL was nice, and MIL was just cold. I was pissed. When we ASKED if we were invited to the Easter get together, we were told no. When we told her about our current pregnancy, she went on and told other people before we were ready to share, didn't apologize. We expressed that we were not comfortable with her gossiping to the rest of the family how terrible we are (well, really, I am) and how they are treating us differently now, and she didn't care, just completely selfish about how we are not at her feet trying to constantly comfort her for things she hasn't told us she's upset about. I lost it and told her not to expect to hear from us again. DH got a guilt-trip email like a week later and we ignored it. Okay. Sorry for the badly composed background, just didn't feel like writing everything.
So now, MIL calls and offers to buy us a crib because she bought one for her first grandchild. I want to completely cut off MIL, but DH is hoping she will change so he is not okay with that. I also don't want a gift that she feels obligated to give and will most definitely have strings attached, as everything else she's offered has.
What to do? Accept the gift(s) or not? Try to convice DH to just get her our of our lives? I just don't see the point of having someone so negative and selfish in our lives, but DH gets upset because "she's still his mother." Am I unreasonable or justifiably sick of her?