My SO are expecting our first LO December 1st which we are super excited about. However, I have been getting more bummed out as my due date gets near due to my MIL. We had to move in with his parents after being kicked out by our previous landlord ( which was his cousin who isn't able to have children and got extremely jealous and mean when we got pregnant and she wanted us out of her house) and since then I have had a hard time enjoying my pregnancy because I am constantly being told what I need to do. MIL already has 2 grandchildren but keeps referring to my child as "her baby" even though I have come right out and told her that it bothers me.That just makes me feel less of a mom for some reason but she still does it! She told the whole family she was going to be in L&D with us when my own mom won't be in there, so we also had to correct her on that. She and her husband are at least a pack a day smokers saying that they will quit before LO gets here but he's due in 6 days and still are continuing the nasty habit, but they know they can not hold him before washing their hands and changing their clothes... period. My SO and I have 2 labs, one who is 4 and one is 1.5 and they live inside with us. I am a huge pet person and my dogs are like my children but also as my due date nears they keep saying they need to be put outside. My SO has told them it bothers me when they talk about doing things like that and to not talk about our dogs, that we will take care of them and its not their concern. However, they keep on about how we will feel once the baby comes and we need to put them outside. I am probably over reacting but MIL is really getting under my skin about everything! She says she is going to take a week off once he is born but neither my SO or I want her to but she doesn't get the hint. I try to not let her get under my skin but I start thinking about how I have let her take the happiness away from me during my first pregnancy. We plan on moving out after the first of the year but she's the kinda person who thinks she doesn't need to call before stopping by so we plan on moving to the other side of town. She is constantly giving me guilt trips about how her other daughter in law won't let them see their grandkids which is not true whatsoever, and saying that she wouldn't let her change a diaper till her other grandson was 15 months old but honestly I feel the same as her daughter in law. Not waiting 15 months but it will take some time. I just don't know how else to tell her to back off without being a straight B**** about it. She will run over me continuously but if me or my SO say something about it she gets her feelings hurt. I am just at my wits end with her. I want to be able to bond with my son but she doesn't get that. She says that she and her husband will be rocking him to sleep...umm no my SO or I will be. She has already had 3 kids plus 2 grandkids but is doing her best to try and take my kid over. Both FIL and MIL are constantly telling me what I need to do when the baby gets here but things have changed since they last had a baby and I am constantly doing research and reading how what the best things are to do. I try not to complain too much to my SO because they are his parents but I feel like my boundaries are constantly being crossed and I don't know what else to do!!
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