how do I deal with my entitled mil as respectfully as possible?
things that have been going on lately.
she came over uninvited and unannounced on Halloween, with her sister whom I've never met, so her sister could meet the babies. DH was home, me and kids were at a church festival..
DH said he got a text from his mom while he was on his was home from work saying she and his aunt were on their way over to our house DH said okay, thinking I had something arranged with her, when he got home and realized me and kids were gone, he called and asked me where I was, the original plan was to meet at church for festival he thought things had changed since his mom was coming over once he realized I hadn't invited her and our original plan was still infact the plan he tried calling her telling her not to come over we won't be home she ignored his calls and came over anyways, offered to drive him to meet up with me, he accepted, just to see the babies, she had no regard for my kids or my families Halloween.
she left within 10 minutes I didn't say more than 2 words to her looked at me DH and said this is my okay loud enough for everyone to hear, walked away with my 4 yr old dd and within 5 minutes DH had them leave.
we went to dinner with his mom aunt and kids the next night, his mom starts talking about upcoming holidays and my dad whom I haven't seen in 4 in a half years will be in LA for thanksgiving me and my family or planning to visit him, and my grandmother. MIL was so rude to me when we told her, saying that she wouldn't get to spend the boys first thanksgiving with them, telling me why don't I go before thanksgiving, I said because my dad wouldn't be there and he is my main reason for going, she is trying to guilt my DH into staying and is just mad at me for going..never once did she say that's nice ,I'm glad you'll get to see your dad.. nothing. it was all about her. then we talk about the cooler weather and a chili cook off we go to every year and she try's inviting herself, and I ignored it, when she didn't get an answer she put me on blast and asked if she could go or not she was fuming, I just looked at her like she was crazy & DH said we'll see. so then after all that we are leaving dinner and she says I'll be by tomorrow, I said for what? she says to visit and I said tomorrow isn't good for us she then says well why not I said omg can you just back off already, I lost it. she starts crying. WTF? I told my DH she is way too entitled and she is trying to become part of my family unit and I'm not having it he agreed and said he will talk to her, either way though I told him I'm backing off and I'm not seeing her as often and neither or the boys, he said ok, I'm a little freaked out by her. I don't know how long DH will last.
things that have been going on lately.
she came over uninvited and unannounced on Halloween, with her sister whom I've never met, so her sister could meet the babies. DH was home, me and kids were at a church festival..
DH said he got a text from his mom while he was on his was home from work saying she and his aunt were on their way over to our house DH said okay, thinking I had something arranged with her, when he got home and realized me and kids were gone, he called and asked me where I was, the original plan was to meet at church for festival he thought things had changed since his mom was coming over once he realized I hadn't invited her and our original plan was still infact the plan he tried calling her telling her not to come over we won't be home she ignored his calls and came over anyways, offered to drive him to meet up with me, he accepted, just to see the babies, she had no regard for my kids or my families Halloween.
she left within 10 minutes I didn't say more than 2 words to her looked at me DH and said this is my okay loud enough for everyone to hear, walked away with my 4 yr old dd and within 5 minutes DH had them leave.
we went to dinner with his mom aunt and kids the next night, his mom starts talking about upcoming holidays and my dad whom I haven't seen in 4 in a half years will be in LA for thanksgiving me and my family or planning to visit him, and my grandmother. MIL was so rude to me when we told her, saying that she wouldn't get to spend the boys first thanksgiving with them, telling me why don't I go before thanksgiving, I said because my dad wouldn't be there and he is my main reason for going, she is trying to guilt my DH into staying and is just mad at me for going..never once did she say that's nice ,I'm glad you'll get to see your dad.. nothing. it was all about her. then we talk about the cooler weather and a chili cook off we go to every year and she try's inviting herself, and I ignored it, when she didn't get an answer she put me on blast and asked if she could go or not she was fuming, I just looked at her like she was crazy & DH said we'll see. so then after all that we are leaving dinner and she says I'll be by tomorrow, I said for what? she says to visit and I said tomorrow isn't good for us she then says well why not I said omg can you just back off already, I lost it. she starts crying. WTF? I told my DH she is way too entitled and she is trying to become part of my family unit and I'm not having it he agreed and said he will talk to her, either way though I told him I'm backing off and I'm not seeing her as often and neither or the boys, he said ok, I'm a little freaked out by her. I don't know how long DH will last.