BG: My dad is a child. He was abusive to me growing up and is mentally ill (no meds until I was an adult). He was only ever going to have LC (family functions, etc).
Well, my parents' house is disgusting (I thought about posting pics, but I felt that would be cruel to you guys). Think fecal matter ingrained in the carpet (white carpet is black), weeds growing out of the gutters (the ones by the roof), and mold everywhere. I get sick every time I go. I told my mom before I got pregnant that my child would never set foot in that house. Now I've decided that I won't even set foot in that house pregnant. I was talking to my sister about how to explain to mom that I won't be coming over even for Christmas dinner (I live 2.5 hours away).
Well, dad found out and called (he never, ever calls). He wanted me to rethink as this would be hurting my mother and how selfish it is of me (his old go to when I tried to get mom to stop drinking), etc. I calmly said no. He suggested I stay at my grandfather's house and they come out to have dinner there.
******TRIGGER*******
Here's the problem, my grandfather attempted to murder my grandmother with a hammer in that house two years ago while she was sleeping. I was in the hospital with her before they cleaned her up or knew what happened (he had tried to OD). Long story short, I developed major PTSD.
******END TRIGGER*****
I explained that I would not be comfortable staying in that house, and he flipped. He started yelling about me being something, I don't know what because I just hung up.
Time for CO?
Well, my parents' house is disgusting (I thought about posting pics, but I felt that would be cruel to you guys). Think fecal matter ingrained in the carpet (white carpet is black), weeds growing out of the gutters (the ones by the roof), and mold everywhere. I get sick every time I go. I told my mom before I got pregnant that my child would never set foot in that house. Now I've decided that I won't even set foot in that house pregnant. I was talking to my sister about how to explain to mom that I won't be coming over even for Christmas dinner (I live 2.5 hours away).
Well, dad found out and called (he never, ever calls). He wanted me to rethink as this would be hurting my mother and how selfish it is of me (his old go to when I tried to get mom to stop drinking), etc. I calmly said no. He suggested I stay at my grandfather's house and they come out to have dinner there.
******TRIGGER*******
Here's the problem, my grandfather attempted to murder my grandmother with a hammer in that house two years ago while she was sleeping. I was in the hospital with her before they cleaned her up or knew what happened (he had tried to OD). Long story short, I developed major PTSD.
******END TRIGGER*****
I explained that I would not be comfortable staying in that house, and he flipped. He started yelling about me being something, I don't know what because I just hung up.
Time for CO?