We are moving closer to DH's family. He has two brothers and one sister. I don't know them well, the sister lives far away. His parents seems nice but I have yet to meet them. But I'm not worried about them. I did meet his brothers once, when I was very pregnant. They traveled to our house to visit. I was nervous to meet them but excited. I made a very nice dinner and they pull up and DH is outside and I go outside to officially meet them. I introduce myself and they were very dismissive and barely have me a grunt of acknowledgment. Which I thought was kind of rude but brushed it off. Then I noticed MBIL had brought a bottle of whiskey. DH and I no longer drink an I obviously couldn't then because I was prgnant. DH had promise he wouldn't drink. I pulled DH aside and said WTF, he said "let him have his fun I'm not drinking." So I said ok.
Well we ate dinner, which none of them thanked me for or even commented that it was good. Left all their plates on the dining table for me to clear and do dishes. DH did help me but didn't even ask them to bring their plates in to the kitchen. Then MBIL starts harassing DH about not drinking and basically makes fun of him and taunts him until he takes a shot. Then one shot leads to another. DH's fault and believe me he got three kinds of hell the next day because he ended up getting drunk with them and going to the neighbors.
They didn't even tell me they were leaving, I was asleep, woke up at 2am and realized I was alone. I heard the noise and laughter over there and went over. It wa bad enough I hate the neighbor woman and she was being completely passive aggressive with me and pointing out how prgnant I was and how sad it was I couldn't drink. Don't give a fuck lady! But I am mad and I pull DH aside and quietly say I am really pissed and he needs to come home. MBIL butts in and says to me "you know I've known my brother a hell of a lot longer than you and he is FINE, I think YOU need to back off!" I didn't even know what to say. What the fuck. DH didn't hear him because of his drunkness and loud music. I finally got DH to come home.
His brothers were staying with us a few more days in where I was not apologized to for what BiL said. They didn't pick up after themselves, towels on the bathroom floor, bottles and plates all over the place, empty cigarette wrappers and chip bags everywhere. And they pretty much ignored me the rest of the time. Didn't bother to try to get to know their SIL at all. That visit left a really bitter taste in my mouth about them. Soon we will only live 3 hours away. I am freaking out that I will get BIL coming over all the time trying to get DH to drink or party or at the very least intrude an trash my house. What do you think? Am I overreacting about their last stay? Should I give them another chance and not jump to conclusions?
Well we ate dinner, which none of them thanked me for or even commented that it was good. Left all their plates on the dining table for me to clear and do dishes. DH did help me but didn't even ask them to bring their plates in to the kitchen. Then MBIL starts harassing DH about not drinking and basically makes fun of him and taunts him until he takes a shot. Then one shot leads to another. DH's fault and believe me he got three kinds of hell the next day because he ended up getting drunk with them and going to the neighbors.
They didn't even tell me they were leaving, I was asleep, woke up at 2am and realized I was alone. I heard the noise and laughter over there and went over. It wa bad enough I hate the neighbor woman and she was being completely passive aggressive with me and pointing out how prgnant I was and how sad it was I couldn't drink. Don't give a fuck lady! But I am mad and I pull DH aside and quietly say I am really pissed and he needs to come home. MBIL butts in and says to me "you know I've known my brother a hell of a lot longer than you and he is FINE, I think YOU need to back off!" I didn't even know what to say. What the fuck. DH didn't hear him because of his drunkness and loud music. I finally got DH to come home.
His brothers were staying with us a few more days in where I was not apologized to for what BiL said. They didn't pick up after themselves, towels on the bathroom floor, bottles and plates all over the place, empty cigarette wrappers and chip bags everywhere. And they pretty much ignored me the rest of the time. Didn't bother to try to get to know their SIL at all. That visit left a really bitter taste in my mouth about them. Soon we will only live 3 hours away. I am freaking out that I will get BIL coming over all the time trying to get DH to drink or party or at the very least intrude an trash my house. What do you think? Am I overreacting about their last stay? Should I give them another chance and not jump to conclusions?